To marry or not to marry that is the question?
I am in a 3 yr relationship with a man who is separated and not divorced. He has a son 20's.from that previous relationship, I have never been married, no children of my own. I am wondering if I am just wasting my time in this relationship. He's been there done that and not interested in another marriage. He's not asked me to marry him, I don't expect him too quiet honestly though we've talked about it in general terms.
I am admittedly not without my own reservations in any relationship.
I dissagree with coconutz
I don't agree with cocnutz. Life is very complicated and relationships make it even more so.
I for one, do not believe in marriage because it is a great distraction in life. People marry because they do not want to end up lonely, yet marriage ultimately leaves them more lonely than before, think about it. Marriage means the end of friendship with any one else besides married women for women and married men for men. it means giving up all your freedom to answer to your spouse. It means your entire life will be made of you always conceding battles to your spouse .compromise is the key word in marriage, it is a miserable existense and the only people who end up benefiting from marriage are the government, women because men let them have it thier way for fear of confrontation and children because they get a "stable" home to growup. I must say that the later is urguable because if the parents are sad and always fighting because of the stress of marriage then the kids stability comes into play. Finally if you really love this man and you think he loves you too, live with him but you two must make up a set of rules designed to maintain as much freedom as possible in which case if love is no longer holding you together seperation becomes much easier.
But thats just me "a man" talking women have different motives and views of life. you have to think seriously marriage is much more complicated and stressfull than most people realize. I've been married before five years and while I love my wife and family i wouldn't do it if i had a chance to start all over. remember variety is the spice of life don't limit you options by marriage.