Originally Posted by
donaldplozha
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I am 19.5 years old and I am in a relationship with a girl I love more than anyone else, since 1 year and 3 months. She is 17.5 years old.
Now, we have had some fights about different reasons, like every other couple, I suppose.
In the sexual aspect of our relationship, we have gone gradually, from kissing on the first date to further advancement until we did oral sex to each other at our 6th date.
I live in a city that's about 100 km away from where she lives, so our relationship is one in distance.
Now, we have engaged ourselves in everything sexual but sex itself. She is a virgin. I am not.
After 1 year and 3 months, I decided that maybe it was time I took a step forward and created the opportunity for us to have sex, since we love each other and I think it's quite normal that two people that love each other, have sex.
I went to the city where she lives, we set a time when we would meet. In the mean time, I found a nice hotel. I had bought some candles 3 months ago that were shaped as hearts and smelled good. I bought two roses, as I wanted to spread the rose petals in the bed, to make the environment more romantic. I met her, I hugged her and I told her that I had missed her body, as I really had. We started walking. She asked where we headed. I told her that it was a surprise. I could see she started feeling a bit uncomfortable as she wanted to know where we were going, but it would ruin my surprise if I told her and add to that, the hotel wasn't far away from there, so I didn't tell her anything. We went at the hotel door and I told her she would wait 5 minutes, then I would ring her phone and she would come up to room nr.2. She accepted silently. In the mean time, I went to the room, spread the rose petals in the bed, lit up the candles, closed the curtains and rang her phone. She came to the room and was happy. At least so it seemed to me.
We layed in the bed, she started spoiling herself, laughing, we started playing with each-other and I liked that. Then I started kissing her a little, she started kissing me back, we went on cuddling each other, she jumped in top of me and she looked horny. Then she started unzipping my pants and started giving me oral sex. I liked that too, simple to understand, I believe. After 10 minutes or so, I told her to lay back because I wanted to satisfy her orally, too. With the information I got, it's important to satisfy a woman through oral sex as it is the key to turning her on and bringing her the desire to have sex. She said she didn't want to. I asked why and she said she wasn't feeling comfortable with what I wanted to do. I didn't understand that and tried to "not listen" to what she said, I started kissing her easily in her lips, around her neck, and when I tried to go down on her, slowly, she again rejected. In that moment, since I am not the kind of person who likes to do things against another's will, I just stopped and I was feeling awfully bad. She saw that and grabbed my head with her hands, started kissing me and cuddling me. I couldn't make a move, I had just freezed right there, over her. She saw that and then stood up telling me that I had to understand her, as she wasn't feeling comfortable. She still hadn't understood that all that environement, which is not what she deserves, but still, is what I can give to her right now to make her feel special, was created by me so that we could have our first time. That made me feel even more dissapointed and I told her that. She opened her eyes like something terrible had happened and started looking at me with anger. After 5 minutes of me telling her that I didn't understand why we hadn't had sex while being together for more than 1 year and bla-bla, she said her mother was calling her and she had to go. I told her she could go, she could do whatever she wanted. She left furiously.
I, truth to be told, was feeling like shit. I had spent money, and I am very tight on money most of the time, since I am a student, to make her feel special, because she deserves that, she's the girl I love. But the way she reacted and left, made me feel like she was saying "Hey, **** you and everything you did, I don't wanna do it, I know why, and that's the end of the discussion".
We didn't talk to each other for the next 3 days. I missed her a whole lot. I called her after 3 days and she sounded sick. She answered roughly and she said she didn't wanna talk to me, as according to her, we had nothing to talk about anymore. We didn't talk for a further 2 days. And I missed her even more for those 2 days. I called her again. She answered roughly, but less than last time. We talked about half an hour, she kept talking to me, sometimes telling me "I don't wanna talk to you", but I understand the message, as noone talks to you and tells you that he/she doesn't wanna talk to you. If she didn't wanna talk for real, she would reject my calls and that's it. She spoiled herself and that made me laugh, then she left because her mother called her to do something. That call made me feel a bit better, although there wasn't anything that really changed. I called her after some hours again, she answered, we talked about 2-3 minutes and then I went to sleep.
Now, I wanna know from someone who is experienced in these matters, as I am not, truth to be told: what may I have done wrong or what is it that has stopped us from having sex in this whole time that we are together ?
Did I do anything wrong in my attempt for us to make love ? Should I call her or am I bothering her ? Please, someone, as this means the world to me and I don't want this relationship to go bad. :(
