is there something seriously wrong with me?

iv been going out drinking, smoking, screwing around, taking girls on dates and getting numbers but it doesnt work!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i wasnt even going out with the girl but im jealous and upset i guess. i go on fb to try and see who the new guy she is seeing and that he is now friends with her mates and brother etc. it should have been me pfft
i guess it just hurts that she treated me differently and didnt like me. i guess im jealous of the new guy who is probabaly screwing her and spending time with her (hes lucky guy)

what do i do??!!!!!!!

Yes, there IS something seriously wrong with you. You get infatuated by a FB girl who lives in another country, take the whole thing far too seriously and get bent out of shape when it (not surprisingly) doesn't work out. It should have been you with her? Pfft indeed. Mate, you've lost touch with reality.

Unfriend her, accept that the idea that she ever could have been a girlfriend was complete folly and move on.

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Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yes, there IS something seriously wrong with you. You get infatuated by a FB girl who lives in another country, take the whole thing far too seriously and get bent out of shape when it (not surprisingly) doesn't work out. It should have been you with her? Pfft indeed. Mate, you've lost touch with reality.

Unfriend her, accept that the idea that she ever could have been a girlfriend was complete folly and move on.

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i dont fully agree with this. my friends have done smoething similar and worked out. what if she does the same with another guy in another coutnry and it works out? and both are infactuated with anither? it does happen and it has before.
im not saying this to disagree with u in the fact that it was silly of me but how do i move on???

accept that the idea that she ever could have been a girlfriend was complete folly and move on.

i dont agree with this

By UNFRIENDING her as I suggested above. You also need to stop the cyberstalking. While you keep up this behaviour, you will only keep the hurt alive in your mind.

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accept that the idea that she ever could have been a girlfriend was complete folly and move on.

i dont agree with this

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And while you continue to think that a girl who wasn't into you could be a real girlfriend, you will not get over it. The longer you stay in this delusional state, the harder it will be to recover.

i agree with what u have siad here;) i am not friends with her on fb anymore. but wat about all the questions i have. what about teh truth???

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i agree with what u have siad here;) i am not friends with her on fb anymore. but wat about all the questions i have. what about teh truth???

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What questions? Who cares? Forget her and move on. She wasn't into you and she is with someone else now. Get over her already, plenty of other girls out there.

a part of me thinks that she actually did genuinely like me and wantes us to work. so i cant help but blame myself for messing things up. but then again this new guy she met she has treated him so much better and she told me a cuple of months ago that she likes him more than she ever liked me

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What questions? Who cares? Forget her and move on. She wasn't into you and she is with someone else now. Get over her already, plenty of other girls out there.

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maybe its an ego thing that i didnt get with her or sleep with her? wud i feel like this if i did? i feel pissed off cos i cud have screwed her over when i had a chance but i didnt

The first thing you have to do is grow up, realize that it's not always about what you want and that it's not ok to play with other people's feelings.

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The first thing you have to do is grow up, realize that it's not always about what you want and that it's not ok to play with other people's feelings.

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hey i dindt play with her feelings in anyway! she played with mine!

Lamobatsman, are you aware that you have an extraordinary sense of entitlement? There is no such thing as it 'should have turned out like X'. Not for you, not for me and not for anyone else. Things don't always go as we want them to. And that's just the way it is.

While you are stuck thinking that you're somehow entitled to have life to turn out how you want it to, you'll get nowhere.

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i agree with what u have siad here;) i am not friends with her on fb anymore. but wat about all the questions i have. what about teh truth???

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The truth? Your view of the truth will be very different to her view of the truth. And the actual reality is different again. Stop thinking about such pointless topics as "truth"

i wanted to hear her side of things thats all. im just jealous thats all, more than the idea of entitlement.