I am in an extremely complicated situation with a guy and no we are not dating.
Hey guys!
So I am a female, 18 and there is guy that I am into, who is male 24.
First off I'd like to know if you think this kind of relationship would even work? I have my doubts but I just can't stand the thought of not being with him. He is 6 years senior to me and just started working at the beginning of the year, whereas, I have recently gotten out of high school last year June and am already doing my Pre-U. Basically we are both in entirely different stages of our lives.
Putting the age difference aside. I've known him for about a year and a half now and I've had feelings for him for about 10 months now. He basically started the fire if you ask me because he would flirt with me last time and me being an introvert would usually just shut him down. But, he kept at it. Either flirting is in his genes or he liked me that much.
I only started responding to his flirtations after 4 months. We flirt like crazy. But the thing is we could only talk once a week because we meet up at a social event every saturday so I have absolutely have no alone time with him other than chatting him up in the virtual world (facebook, texting, calling, and the occasional skyping).
To make it worse there are times when I can't talk to him for 2 weeks, sometimes a month and the longest being 2 months because I am sitting for a very intense course of which I need my extreme focus on. So usually I would stop talking to him and kinda go incognito but when he chats me up I do reply. He once asked why I didn't chat him up for awhile. I told him I was busy with exams. From there he just didn't chat me up at all.
Recently I have gone incognito again and it's been two weeks now and not a peep from him. He did ask me when my exams are all going to be over. I told him in June.
Infact, when I gave him the excuse of me being busy, which was in January 2013,I did not see him until March 2013 after that and the first thing that he said to me was, "Someones been so busy these days." Jokingly.
Also after that, the flirting is kinda low compared to normal which is actually really disappointing for me.
What I want to know is this:
Do you think it's wise to not communicate to him until my exams are over? Which is from now till June.
Do you think he is waiting for me?
Also, he hasn't really confessed to me. He kinda did but that was in June 2012. He said, "If you're into me I'd go for you" and I kinda just laughed thinking it was a joke *face palm*. But he keeps asking me who I like whenever he has the chance and to be honest I don't really want to be the one to confess first. I keep giving him hints. OBVIOUS hints that it is he who I fancy but he just acts like a block head! And when I ask him if he likes anyone he says; "nope".
^This fact makes me doubt if he really likes me or is just playing around.
In conclusion, I'd like to know:
-Is the age difference going to be a big deal?
-Is there a chance that he is waiting for me?
-Should I stay incognito or should I chat him up? I know for a fact that even if I do, he'd reply but he wouldn't get back to me after that-this I am pretty sure of.
-Should I just tell him that I am into him?
PS: He only has one ex-girlfriend. When he was 17 and it lasted for two and a half years. He has been single ever since. Just thought this info might be helpful (though not sure how it is going to be helpful)
And I myself have never had a boyfriend. I am too mature for my own good and I am looking for a serious relationship.
PPS: I have had feelings for other guys before but this guy...the connection is just so very different.
PPPS: If this post has too little information please do let me know. I am trying to summarise things. It's a very long story. If you prefer I give the details from head to toe I would, unless of course you can guide me from here, that'd be great. Thanks!
