Playing Things Cool When Seeing An Ex To Win Him Back- Advice?
Hi all! I'd love some advice on this issue I'm having...
My boyfriend and I of a year broke up in November, because I was being very controlling in our long distance relationship. We dated for a year in high school, and decided to stay together in college, but I didn't give him his space and he got scared. I regret that, and really have learned my lesson. I texted him a few months later saying I missed him and I realized what I did wrong and have changed a bit, and he said "at this point, I think that we should just be friends. That's where I'm at right now. I hope that's okay." I agreed to be friends and we have talked in a friendly matter a couple of times since then (including a very nice "happy birthday" from him to me that included an inside joke of ours). Now, I saw his statement as kind of open ended and I understand that it would have been hard to start up a long distance relationship again over text mid-year, without having seen each other for a few months. That being said, summer vacation is coming up in two weeks...
The good news is that I have really bettered myself. In the beginning of the school year, I was too dependent on him and that ended up ruining our nearly perfect relationship. I found some great friends at college, and I have really found myself without him. That doesn't mean I miss him any less though! We were each other's first loves, and we have this crazy connection... Even when we saw each other over winter break, the chemistry was palpable. When we would talk one on one he would just stare at my lips, and we were clearly still very attracted to one another. We are in the same very tight knit friend group of about 10 people back home, so we are going to be seeing each other a lot. I do miss him and do want him back, but I know that I cannot force it, especially since my controlling nature was the demise of the relationship in the first place.
I just need some advice on how to make sure I don't pressure him or try to force anything when I see him this summer. I still love him and know that there's going to be a little voice in my head (that will get louder with alcohol) that's going to want to ask him to hang out one-on-one right away when I see him the first time. Does anyone have any advice/any experience with playing hard to get and playing things cool to win over an ex?
