Is he interested in me or just sex? I can't tell!
I met a guy through an online dating site. He sent me an email saying I sounded "incredibly sweet" and asked me a couple questions indicating he read my profile (wow, right?). I responded and asked to give me info about himself. He said he had a degree, was an optimist and was in a good place in his life, handsome and charming and then asked to meet me. I asked what he liked to do for fun and stuff like that and for a picture. He sent a picture but didn't answer my questions. After a day or two of emailing back and forth I agreed to meet him at the coffee shop across the street from my house (I live with my parents).
We met during the weekday in the late morning. We seemed to hit it off though I couldn't get much about himself out of him. I asked him what he did for a living and said he worked kind of like a freelancer and worked at night. He said that's when his mind works the best for work and that he stares at a computer screen. He didn't elaborate what he actually DID. He seemed to have me pretty figured out by that first meeting and I gave quite a bit of info about myself (doh! I always do that!) to which he said at one point, "I am someone you should know." Two hours after meeting he drove me home.
I texted him the next day as I hadn't heard from him yet asking if he wanted to see each other again. He said "definitely, maybe watch tv together." We made plans for him to come over my house the next day. He came over in the afternoon after I got off work. We sat on the couch and made out. He wanted to go further but I wouldn't let him. He left about 2 hours later saying "I have people I meet". He was dressed professionally that day and had said he'd been all over meeting various people but still didn't elaborate on what he did for a living. Like, what kind of business do you do?? Anyway, we texted each other over the next day or two (I prefer texting over talking on the phone, btw. I'm shy with that). I asked him when could we meet again and could it be on his turf this time? He confessed that he lived with his family as well and it wouldn't work out for me to come over to his house. I asked him what he wanted to do and he said "finish what we started the other day." I didn't want to just have a hook up so I asked him if he was interested and wasn't interested in just sex. He said he was interested in me so we made plans for him to come over to my house again on Friday. Again, it was in the afternoon. He came over and we talked in my room, then had sex, then talked some more and he left about 3 hours later. Both times he came over we kissed and hugged before leaving and one time he gave me a "goal for the week" which was about something we talked about in conversation previously. I asked him what he did on the weekends hoping we could hang out then and he said "I have school on Saturdays". I thought that sucks but oh well I understand being busy... he would text me on saturday nights saying he was tired and had a long day so I didn't really think anything of it. Then a week went by after those first 3 hang outs. We texted every day for a little bit but some times he'd drop the conversation when I was expecting a response from him.
We made plans to see eachother on Monday...but on Sunday I asked him to come hang out with me and he said "oh and have dinner with your parents. sounds awesome." in a sarcastic tone. I said "no i asked you to hang out with me and why is it so hard to say Hi I'm (so-and-so) nice to meet you" and leave? Takes less than a minute and they want to know who is coming over to their house." He ignored that the rest of the evening. The next day I ask "are you still coming over today?" he said "oh I thought you were mad at me" and proceeds to tell me his car was broken down. I offer to pick him up so we could hang out somewhere to which he said no. The next day I ask how his car was doing and could I pick him up to hang out? again he said no. So... a week and a half has gone by without seeing each other and no real plans to see each other and I wasn't allowed to pick him up. I ask "are you interested in me or should I date someone else?" he said "I have been busy. Don't let me keep you from seeing other people." so I took that as he wasn't really interested so I told him "good luck with your future" and stopped contacting him.
I went out on a date with another guy the next week and also heard from my ex... I had no intentions of hearing from this guy again. A week and a half goes by and last night (saturday) I get a text from him asking how I was doing? We have a conversation basically catching up. I tell him about my date and my ex (he asked me to tell him about it). I ask him if he's dating anyone and he says no. He asks if that was the only date I went on and I said yes (which is true-plus told him it was a dud..which is true). So I ask him "do you want to go out on another date or are you too busy for that?" he responds "id like you see you again yeah". So I say "when are you free?" he says monday. I said Im off work at 2pm and he says really? then what about tuesday? I tell him I'm off work tuesday. He says "perfect. I'll text you tuesday then." (i told him right before that that I was running low on texts for the month.)
So... my questions are... Is he really interested in me or does he just want to have sex with me? He says he's interested but doesn't give me a whole lot of info on himself and doesn't want me to pick him up to hang out and won't hang out outside of my house on nights and weekends. It just seems strange to me. I'd like some insight about this. He's 30 and I'm 35. My guy friend just says "he's weird." lol which doesn't help me much. Help! I don't want to be used...
