Should I contact him again?
Lovely forum members, you helped me once I hope you can help me again. I just need to hear what other women would do in my situation.
I met X, an English guy, in Thailand. He was there working, I was there for pleasure. I was going through a divorce and didn't want to mess with boys, so avoided him despite the fact that I really fancied him. I exchanged a few words with him. Once he told me he was really shy and also he had been hurt so many times he preferred to stay away from women.
I was there for 2 weeks and never did I see him with other girls.
On the last night he kissed me and we ended up snogging - nothing more. We were both a bit intoxicated :)
I then went back to the UK. He stayed there. I kept thinking of him all the time and finally wrote him a FB message saying I was thiking of him and I really fancied him etc etc. He replied that he was flattered, but he didn't know me enough, so couldn't tell if he liked me in the same way. I was fine with that answer. We wrote to each other every single day. After a few weeks he started flirting with me in a very open way. I flirted back. Then we started emailing about more serious stuff, like relationships. He also sent me some really hot messages. It went on for 3 months.
I found out that he wasn't only a pretty face, but he was cute and kind and shy in a very adorable way.
The only weird thing was that I always asked questions, he never asked much about me and preferred to email about himself - which is strange for a shy guy like him, but maybe the fact that we were emailing made him a little more open.
He claimed that I was treating him as a distraction from my divorce and that might have been truth - maybe not entirely, but a little bit (I now realise it). He is a very rational guy, so said that the whole thing didn't make much sense because of the distance. I was telling him I was going to move to Thailand soon, but didn't have a specific date or anything, and he thought that I was just being irrational because of the divorce situation and I wouldn't move there anyway, but he kept sending me emails.
I must admit that I was a bit forward with him...I'm a bit embarrassed about it cause I was depressed and desparately needed attention and didn't know what else I could do rather than tell him straight that I wanted to sleep with him - not very lady like. Now, I would like to scrap that and start again, be less forward and be more on a friends terms at the beginning.
Anyway, the conversation started drying out. His life was so completely different to mine that there was only a couple things we could actually talk about.
he didn't email me for a while and during that time I got a tattoo, which is in hebrew. I sent him a photo of it and he asked what it meant. I said 'I want to kiss you until my lips are swollen' or something ridiculous like that. I was joking, I swear. I didn't even want to flirt with him again. The tattoo means nothing like that anyway.
That was at the beginning of June and he didn't reply at all.
Now, I am going back to Thailand in November and am going to stay there for a year, or maybe longer. I really would like to meet up with him and see what happens. I don't want to have any expectations so I was wondering if I should email him and ask if he would like to see me. But I don't want to appear clingy or silly. I could handle rejections and the fact that I might bore him, or he doesn't fancy me, but I would feel really disappointed if I show up there and he has a girlfriend, or he's not there anymore.
If I decide to email him, what should I write? Should I be casual, should I ask him why he didn't reply? should I joke about that tattoo thing? should I explain myself about being too forward with him? What if he doesn't reply again or tells me to get lost? I don't know how I would look him in the eye again!
NOTE: I AM NOT MOVING TO THAILAND BECAUSE OF HIM. I'VE ALWAYS WANTED TO DO IT AND I HAVE A TEACHING JOB THERE.
I would just like to know if there's a chance of us meeting again...
