Hi guys i wondered if you could give me any insights. I went through a bad break up of an affair 2 months ago and thought i would be over it by now but it still hurts as if it was yesterday. I have to see this man all the time at my work but we don't speak to each other. In the time i have had to think about it i have come to realize that i cannot get over it because the resulting situation is my fault. I knew, on more than one occasion while i was still with him that things were going wrong and that i should have ended it but i ignored this inner voice and continued with the affair, maybe out of hope that things would go back to how they were or cos i wasn't ready to let go or was waiting to regain control. Bottom line is that the horrible way it ended could have been avoided if only i had listened to my brain when it repeatedly warned me. Yes he is an a** about that there is no doubt, but i was the one who let him hurt me, i allowed the situation to continue. And i am unable to forgive myself, i feel like such an idiot for not being wiser. And every time i see him it reminds me of my failure and i just wish i knew how to forgive myself for my stupidity and move on. thanks for reading x