Lack of Marriage Proposal after 9 years together...feeling resentment/anger. Help.
After nine years of dating my boyfriend, I feel extremely resentful, angry, used, hurt, alone and unloved. We are both in our early 30's.
My patience has gone and we've had more and more fights.
Two months ago, he delivered an invitation to me to attend his younger brother's wedding in September. The deadline to RSVP was a month ago and I purposely missed the deadline for it. He's been telling me that this wedding is a big deal and that I must attend with him since he is the best man. I am not sure if I still have to go even though I didn't send back the reply.
This weekend was his brother's bachelor party, I couldn't hold it in anymore and I just let everything out. I told him we should break up and I kept calling him dumb. I feel so angry and resentful, I feel I wasted so much time waiting for him. While he's been out of town having a good time, I have been crying the whole weekend.
While he went out of town for his brother's bachelor party, I felt the pain and the reality that his younger brother is getting hitched and he isn't. I feel this should have been his bachelor party instead and not his brother's.
This weekend, I told him that we should break up, but at the same time, I'm afraid that I will make it without him since I have spent a huge part of my life with him. I also feel pressure from my parents to have children as my biological clock is running out. I am pressured to stay with him for the sake of having kids for that very reason.
I don't know how to deal with my resentment, we have talked about marriage before but it's always just talk. I have so much disgust towards him. I want to punish him by saying "no" when and if he finally proposes, but at the same time I'm hoping he will. I've been putting him down verbally because I'm so angry inside.
I don't know if we are still in love anymore. He tends to check out other women (especially ones who are dressed provacatively). I have told him I don't like it, but he still continues to do it.
If we are still together by September, I really don't want to attend this wedding because I am afraid I won't be able to control my emotions when I am there. Would you do if you were in my situation and would you attend this wedding?
Please help.