Originally Posted by
BeautifulPutrid
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So! Been with my bf for almost 3 years. He is my first long term relationship. I am 27 and he is 34. We get along very well and have a pretty good thing going.. BUT! I'm ready to go forward in our relationship and he isn't.. We live in a small town with very little opportunity to succeed. I work literally everyday at 2 different jobs to pay all my bills and rent. I also have a 7 yr old daughter. The work I do is a great fallback kind of job and if I were to move to another area, I'd make significantly more and not have to work as much. I want to be able to go back to school, work not as often(everyday is pretty tiring... two of those days are back to back 24/hr shifts) and be able to get ahead in life. But living where we do and not living together, makes this impossible for me since I can't afford to not work the hrs/days I currently work and pay everything I need to alone. So, I told him my needs and willing to compromise to make it work. I hate living here, but he doesn't want to leave so I said I would be willing to stay here if we could eventually live together so I wouldn't have to work so much and go back to school. I also wouldn't get a dog (he hates dogs and I'm an animal lover). OR! To move to a better location so I could make more money and work less so I could attend school. We wouldn't have to live together if that were the case. Well, he doesn't want to relocate and doesn't want to live together-ever. He's wanting to do a long distance relationship(I have decided to move) but that's a deal breaker for me. I have no interest in a long distance relationship because I know he wont make the move to be with me at all. I feel so lead on and hurt.. But also feel like I'm an asshole and selfish.. Idk.. I'm very confused :-(