Guy's behavior puzzling me - input please :)
A man from another country, whom I had only met once in person, well due to his location so far and him having a child with his ex-wife, this meant basically he'd have to stay put. So I made attempts for more than a year to stop chatting with him/staying in touch.
He was pretty stubborn about it, always asking me to re-friend him, yet each time we'd start to get a closer, he'd seem to pull back, and I'd basically let it go.
Fast forward to recently, the last 6-8 weeks. We started talking again (he initiated it) and so I finally gave in (sort of) by sending him some pics (not nude, just a little sexy) and before I knew it, we were like two kids all crazy about each other - it was fun once I let my guard down. It seemed to make him very happy. So was I.
Well long story short, since we had some ups and downs with I think both of us becoming confused/conflicted as to where this could go in spite of some intense feelings growing in spite of us being on different sides of the world.
So 2 night ago we were being flirty with each other, but it led to him saying "I can't leave here, and I can't leave my child and I don't want to lead you on that we can have something serious."
Well you can imagine how hearing this HURT because he has not left me alone for way over A YEAR, constantly wanting my time, my attention, etc., well this is WHY, I replied, I kept trying to stay away from you.
I ended it within 3 minutes after he said that.
I told him, in spite of his attempts to keep his hooks in me immediately after saying we could not be serious, that I COULD NOT keep in touch, still talk, if that was the case. I had to protect my feelings and HE had to stay away 100%. No more FB friends, no IM's, NOTHING.
I don't understand him?
What do you make of a man who demands to be the center of your attention for so long yet just seems to want to keep me sitting here for nothing?!
If any men here can help me out, I'd appreciate it.
But the way I feel now, I dd the right thing in letting him go - the way we started talking again was because HE SAID he would consider re-locating here, and now suddenly after he had me here wanting more, he thought he could get it ALL his way.
Even more puzzling, after I said we had to stop talking, he was acting all hurt and broken up over it, well what did he expect me to do after he said that?