Relationship ended due to work prospects - why do I still want her?
Me and my girlfriend have decided to break up after a 3 year-long relationship. We met at university (she is French, I'm English and we met during her year abroad in England),and maintained a steady relationship up until recently. I luckily managed to study in her town for a year when she was back in france, and when we were away from each other, we would still skype often.
The break-up issues began to arise this year when we were both due to graduate from university. She had secured a teaching job in her town, meaning she could not come to England for at least a year or two. I on the other hand, failed to get an internship within a French bank and have kinda been left high and dry since I've graduated (in july). So I've been forced to return to my parents and look for work there, which I had never envisaged myself doing beforehand.
So, the problem is not that we don't love each other anymore, it's rather a question of our relationship no longer being feasible. We both said to each other that a long-distance relationship was out of the question, we're tired of being apart for months on end plus with full-time jobs it's even harder to find the free time to see each other.
My reasons for not staying with her are down to the fact that I would have more opportunities over here in England than I do in france. I'd more or less only be able to do English teaching over in france, and life could be a bit more precarious if I don't receive a steady wage. However, I'm still unemployed over here in England, and I'm struggling to see myself geting the decently-paid job that I had imagined originally. Essentially, thinking about the long-term, I thought being here in England would maximise my chances for success and overall pay off. But, the longer I stay unemployed, the more I say to myself 'Well if I have to get a low-paid job that I don't enjoy, I may as well get one in france so i can be with her'. Because at least then I might be happy, at the moment I feel like I have nothing to show for splitting up with her. Plus the break-up wasn't messy, and relationship-wise I could see myself with her years down the line.
So what should I do guys? Should I just stick to my guns and just try and move on? Or is it worth me giving it a go in france, and trying to find a job in her town so I can be with her?
