I recently ended a 5 year relationship. When we first got together, everything was exciting and there was no shortage of passion for each other. After the first couple of years, we started to loose this passion. Our relationship became more comfortable and routine. Its almost as if our relationship transitioned into a close friendship. Eventually, the physical aspects of our relationship started having problems. Sex and kissing became very infrequent. There were some small issues that we never resolved that eventually kept surfacing. Eventually, I decided that the only solution was to end the relationship.
Since then, I dated someone where the tables were turned. The relationship was full of passion and excitement but lacked comfort and stability. We would take trips, go dancing, drinking, and spend full weekends together. The highs were sky high. However, she was very emotional and dramatic which eventually became a problem. I tried to work out these kinks but they kept coming back. Eventually, the relationship ended due to the dramatic nature of it.
Do you think comfort/stability or passion is more important long term? Do you think they can co-exist long term? How do you know when to stick it out or call it quits when a relationship becomes comfortable but lacks passion?
