I love someone to whom I'm not married. How do I know if she feels the same?

I know some of you are thinking I am a rat or a pig. I love my wife but I also have secretly loved another woman for a long time. She knows how I feel about her...mostly. I don't think she completely knows it but she keeps her distance somewhat. I imagine she does this because I am married. How do I know if this woman really loves me? I don't want to hurt anyone. I just want to know if this woman feels the same about me as I do about her? I truly love her and have her on my mind ALL the time. Will someone who is understanding please help answer my questions? Thank you!

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Originally Posted by romantic14her [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I know some of you are thinking I am a rat or a pig. I love my wife but I also have secretly loved another woman for a long time. She knows how I feel about her...mostly. I don't think she completely knows it but she keeps her distance somewhat. I imagine she does this because I am married. How do I know if this woman really loves me? I don't want to hurt anyone. I just want to know if this woman feels the same about me as I do about her? I truly love her and have her on my mind ALL the time. Will someone who is understanding please help answer my questions? Thank you!

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I understand your situation and can tell you mature guys grow up and get over the fact..... or get a fuccking divorce :P

If you truly don't want to hurt anyone, you'll turn your attentions away from this woman and work on re-kindling your marriage.

You don't actually love this woman, you are infatuated with her, which is a very different thing and it will burn out on its own if you acknowledge it for what it is.

Answer this Q: if this other woman didn't exist are you ready to call it quits on your marriage? If the answer is yes, get a divorce. Once the papers are filed, pursue this other women to your heart's content.

If the answer is no, will yourself to stop thinking about her & concentrating on dating & romancing your wife who you do know LOVES you.

Uh! Stop living a lie. Its not fair to your wife. Your infatuatrd by this woman-similar to an emotional affair. You cant love someone you have never been in a real life relationship with. Remember ALL relationships get boring eventually if you let them. Even in fantasy land with this other woman, youll have work, bills, a mortgage, housework etc- the daily grind that can see you so easily getting stuck in a comfy rut with your SO and forgetting to do all the little things that matter to keep your love strong. You should be focused on your wife, your marriage, making her feel special, spicing up romance and quality time. Things have gotten stale to the point where you are trying to escape from reality and little miss perfect is just a fantasy. You need to get your head outa your ass and focus on what you DO have before its too late and you throw it all away for a woman you dont even really know. Youll regret it if you toss your marriage aside for nothing and it will be nothing coz rebound relationships never work. This happened coz you let it and now its up to you to fix it. Research how to get over an emotional affair or the grass is greener syndrome


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Think one second about your wife would react if she were to go online and see your post. Seriously. Don't you think it would tear her apart? (If you think she wouldn't care, you two DEFINITELY need a divorce). Ask yourself why she deserves to be in a relationship with someone that loves and respects her so little and then make up your damn mind.....either get out of her life or realize you need to get over this other woman and be a proper loving spouse. No one deserves to be 'settled for'.