Is being up front for the best? Or do I let things play out?
I'm feeling a current sense of urgency, and I don't know whether to act on it or not.
Some back story -
I've been seeing a new man for about 2 months. It's been intense. He's an intense man. He's the first man to ever take me out on actual dates. We don't get to see each other much, due to his current training program. We are in contact every day. He's not a big texter. After another nice date on Friday, I spent the night. We had sex. (We have had sex one time before) It was very passionate. He's told me he loves me via text, but never in person...so I don't put much faith in that. We talk about how we're both looking to get married and have children. He's always making comments on how he wants to "keep me forever" and how happy I make him and how he's never done these things for a woman.
Now, after he dropped me off very early Saturday morning, he asked me if I could call and wake him up later in the day. I did so. I text him a few hours later saying I had a great time with him, he replied "me too baby". Lots of hours went by, and I was honestly surprised I hadn't heard from him. He's not texting me constantly ever, but he does usually reach out or call me. I started to freak out by this point, honestly. I didn't want to jump to conclusions, but I started feeling like "oh so I spend the night and now you go silent".
I text him around 10, we talked very briefly. He text me this morning saying "Sorry, fell asleep" and that has been it.
I'm starting to feel like something isn't right. I don't know if I'm just making something out of nothing. I'm worried that I was a conquest, and now that I'm coming around and getting more comfortable with the idea of being in a relationship with him, the thrill has worn off.
Do I just initiate a conversation with him about this? Shoot him a text and saying "I'm starting to feel a type of way, and I don't like it."? We have agreed to talk things out if problems arise. Or do I just let it go and see if he starts reaching out? I honestly want to know if we're heading towards being exclusive or if I'm free to date other people.
On the phone the other day he said "I know we're not official. There aren't any titles or anything. But it feels like we are. I'm not talking to other girls or anything." He's also expressed jealousy and what he expects when in a relationship.
I'm seriously confused and I don't like it. I don't know what to say to him or where to even begin. I feel like a 16 year old again.
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