So I have been single for 6 months after a 7 year marriage. I found someone on a dating app thing. We have a lot in common, and shes super cool. She told me that she was sort of seeing someone, and I was fine with that. I was willing to just be friends. After 2 weeks we decided to meet up, I was still under the impression it was just as friends. We had a good time and clicked very well. As we said our good-byes, she said something along the lines of it being a good first date. I didn't even realize it was a date. And then she hugged me, and held on longer than a friend would. In fact we stood in the cold, embracing for a good five minutes. We were just talking and stuff. She kept giving me openings to kiss her, but I was feeling awkward and confused, so I didnt. Then she started to walk to her car, turned around and came back. She kissed me, it was like a 5 second kiss, then she left. I didnt know what just happened. But since I first starting talking to her, I knew I easily could fall for her. And I really had to fight those emotions. But after our meeting, she made it obvious that she was willing to be more than friends. And I hadnt fallen in love or anything, but I really opened myself up to explore my emotions. The next day, we texted back and forth like normal, and no mentions of what happened. The day after, I finally asked her what are we. She said she didnt know. She was still in that other relationship, and she said she wasnt sure what she wanted out of that. And she told me that she wanted me and her to be friends for now, with a possibility for something later. I felt a little heart ache from that. At first it felt like she was saying the "possibility for something later" more to not completely hurt my feelings. The next day we talked, and I brought that stuff up again. I told her that I was willing to just be friends, but her kissing me gave me a different impression. But I was willing to forget that it ever happened, and be friends from now on. She said okay. Then I said, once I decide to be just friends, I wont ever have the ability to fall for her again. And that seemed to upset her. She said she didnt want that possibility to go away. And thats where I am now. I can be nothing but friends, and nothing more ever. Or, I could keep that door open, which will keep my emotions open. And more than likely feeling hurt. I could deal with a little pain, if I knew in a few weeks she would break it off with the other guy, and give me a chance. But I dont know if that will happen. Plus, I would feel like an ass if im sitting back, waiting for her relationship to fail. I dont think shes being a bad person or anything. I dont think she expected to fall for me, and doesnt know what to do. Plus, she doesnt know me as much as the other guy, since we have only been talking for a few weeks. So I'd be a risky choice. So, what do I do? Keep in mind, I've really started to fall for her, and shes pretty perfect for me. Id really hate to loose the chance for us. But I am already experiencing heart break over it all. Sorry so long, and please help!
