Please, I need help. My girlfriend does not want to move forward with life?
Alright, so for a while my girlfriend hasn't seemed to have any real drive at all. I mean she did great in school and just finished her BA in Psychology, but she doesn't even like the subject. As we've become closer and closer, I've learned that she doesn't really like dealing with people at all, in general. It's frustrating for me, as both of us had pretty lonely childhoods, sitting and being alone for most of high school.
However, while I was always the flunk and failure, she's the one with the great grades and so many opportunities, but she doesn't care about any of them. At a 3.7 GPA, she picked her college simply because it was closest, and at 22 still doesn't show interest in driving a car or learning house hold stuff like doing her laundry or cooking (all of this falls on me, I don't resent her for it really but I'm concerned about it).
She doesn't seem to have any interest in a field, a career, or pursuing a degree in a better college (she could likely get a free ride to a more prestigious university if she tried with her GPA), but she doesn't care.
When I tried to ask her about this, she always pushed it off, as she never really liked talking about stuff like this despite my worrying and would shut me out if I tried. But tonight she started talking and I got a clear answer from her: "I don't want to move forward because it might get worse". I don't mean to imply that the current situation we're in is terrible, but it is pretty bad. Moreover, she resents never having a goal in her life.
I love her so much but I'm afraid that she's barely hanging on, and that the only way she can climb out of this is by both of us pulling ourselves up and reaching for something, but she doesn't have drive for anything at all. We're both massive gamers and I'm afraid that while we've both used them as a way to escape real life, I've become more engaged with life while she's steadily slipped away.
Is there anything I can do to bring her back? Anything? She won't talk to me about this, I know she won't. Not directly at least. I don't even think she respects me much anymore. But I can't stand by and watch her crumble like this.