Ladies, i need you take on this..
I met this lady at a house party in which we hit it off. At first i was skeptical, but when she decided to give me her number out of the blue, i was "okay, lets see how this goes". I and my friends leave the house party and then head downtown to a couple of Bars, i check my phone and there is a text from her--she is texted saying she enjoyed our encounter..i reciprocated and we had a couple of back and forth. In the end, she ended up leaving the house party to come meet me in the bar. We talked, danced and it was fun. We ended up kissing (a couple of times) and then we left --I asked her if i could come to her place that night, but she explained why it would not be a good idea. i agreed.
The next day, she texted and i replied and we continued this back and forth. We met for lunch during the week during which she greeted me with a kiss. We talked often on the phone. Everything was going smoothly.
On Valentine's day, i gave her some flowers (No Red's just White and Pink (to avoid being creepy))..took her out to go see a movie, had dinner and checked out a couple of bars where she introduced me to a couple of her friends. I dropped her at her home and drove back to my place.
After that she insisted that she wanted us to meet again, and this time, i wanted to switch things up (i felt that the restaurant/bar scene was kind of overused)...i decided to cook for her (and mind you i am a very good cook of outlandish foods) my place where we could enjoy our own company and have some good wine. I told her and she decided that it was a good idea..we decided on the time(texts); after which she called and we talked for like 20 mins during which we had our usual laughs and all.
The next day, i got a text from her during noon that she was sick with a sore throat and she wanted to take a rain-check on our meet in the evening. i was concerned as she said she was sick. i tried enquiring what was wrong, but this time, her text were not as immediate as before (previously, she replied within minutes) it took hours..
I called her - no answer (coming from someone who always insisted that i call her instead of texts). I sent another text and after a couple of hours she replied that she was getting better - her fever had gone, that she was making soup, that she would be fine.
I had this suspicious feeling that she may not have been ill-but i was not sure. Later in the day, i called her twice to checkup and she did not answer the phone. I was confused and shocked.
two days later, she updated her Facebook timeline ...i was like "seriously? she does realize she added me on Facebook and i can see these updates". If she could update her FB why could she not text back to at least tell me that she was ok, considering the fact that i was showing concern.
Funny thing was that i actually started liking her and i thought she did. My gut feeling tells me that maybe she did not want to come to my place (We are not kids) Both of us are in our 30's and i expect that if there is something that she is not comfortable with she should make it known.
This is crazy..because on the night before, she was open to the idea and we spoke about it at length and she was excited about the visit. So why this sudden change?
Maybe i could be over-reacting. Maybe she wants to step back and think the whole thing through, or maybe she was ill and does not want to be around me when she is ill. Its been 3 days...but this is coming from someone who for the past week was always bombarding my phone with text and calls....and then now, no communication. I want to make sense of it all.
Ladies what do you think?
