Feeling pretty stressed, down and unsure of the future.
Feeling pretty stressed, down and unsure of the future. Would really appreciate some advice. :)
I am currently in a relationship with a girl I am crazy about.
We met in March 2013, started dating and then began a relationship in May 2013. She found herself not comfortable living with her flat mates around the same time so we talked and she moved into my place. So the relationship moved quite rapidly at this point. Also she had ended a 4 year relationship a week or two before we started seeing each other in March. I know the whole situation rings alarm bells but it just felt right at the time. We were both in the same place in our life wanting very similar things and having similar goals.
My girlfriend suffers from severe clinical depression so I have had to be very cautious and careful about how I approach any topic with her. I'm not sure if our current problems strictly relate to this or may play a small part in them.
Basically since around September 2013 she has been lying to me and I have been betrayed. Each occurrence I have forgiven her and pleaded with her to be honest and upfront in the future and I have been very understanding.
The main reason I have found out about these lies was due to me reading her messages in her phone. Often she would leave it unlocked and go off for a shower or do something else and it would give me a chance to read it. Some of the things I saw I wish I never did, they hurt me a lot.
She has planned with her friends on several occasions from September up until last month to move out and break up with me yet denies it all and says she doesn't want that at all. I keep allowing her to treat me like this when I know I should break up with her. I guess its part of my low self esteem. Her friends run me down in these messages yet they have not met me or know me properly. I am a good man to her, I put her first in almost every situation. She does not stick up for me when they run me down.
I really don't know what to do. There are so many details I have left out as it would have been to long to read but I am happy to elaborate anything if asked. Thanks for reading.