Pictures from the past!

Before my boyfriend asked me and my son to move in a couple months ago I was staying at his house regularly one day he asked me not to come over so I didn't I went home and barely spoke to him at that time we where not officially together so as the story goes I moved in and we became official! We have been doing thing to our home like buying a new tv and a new fireplace tv stand! So after a romantic night after the kids where in bed we layed in bad and he starts showing me pictures of Machines at work and telling me the job sight from the picture then a picture of a woman in her under garments appears laying on the couch from the same time frame he asked me to not come over! I knew he ha photos from the past on his phone but we do not go threw each other's phones so for me it didn't matter until we where laying in bed and I see a woman laying on the couch that we where just snuggled up on! It made me really jealous and unconfident to him he just laughed but it really bothers me! How can I express my feelings without coming off as a needy and unconfident when all I can think of is him not wanting me when he can have her or any girl for that matter!(we have been fwb in the past and finally he is mine but I know his past and how Girls will do whatever he says just to have him for a night I know because it used to be one of them till I put a stop to it) I don't see how he can want a real relationship when he can have it all! I love this man and his children and I know he loves me and my son! Just want him to know how I feel so it doesn't turn into a big fight over me feeling jealous

you should have told him how you know that picture was taken at the time when he asked not to come over!! what are you?? you're officially in a relationship now, you have every right to ask about the things he does. don't let him manipulate you like this. you won't come out as needy! just tell him in his face that he can't do that! :\

If was from before we where together but it was kind of a stab to me! And it was from the same job site and I was here every night but one and like I said I feel bad for bringing it up to him because at that time we where not together

What do you expect to gain from bringing it up? It's not as if he can change the past.

If it's a deal breaker, move on. If it's not a deal breaker, let it go.

Gain that I have the feelings off my chest and not bring it up again! I have a hard time letting things go and when I get angry or upset I go off! With him I have never felt that because we communicate about everything just so fits of rage do not come out! I just to tell him it bothers me in a way that he understands I'm fine with the past but it's hard when he keeps it and I feel I can't move forward!

Why does he still have that photo on his phone? If he's as serious about you as you are about him, that wouldn't even be there and he certainly wouldn't have laughed when you saw it- nevermind what time frame it was from.

He sounds like a bit of an ass, to be honest with ya. If that had been me, I would have demanded that he delete it immediately. That's horribly disrespectful to you. We're not talking about porn here, this is a real chick, on a real couch, in your very real home together. It's not just an image of someone he's never met or will never see again.

I think you ought to do some serious thinking on this. Is he really as committed to this as you are? Best of luck x

Honestly I believe he is as committed as I am we live together he introduced me to his kids he lets me watch his kids he has only let one other woman has ever met his kids! He is a complete ass and always has been but he has amazing moments and I look over all the things he does that most people don't see threw I know him better then anyone I just idk! I don't want to lose him over a photo but at the same time it is very disrespectful! He does so much for my son and I and honestly without him I wouldn't be doing the things I am! I know I sound a little crazy but in all the time we have known each other we have stopped talking and reconnected over 20 times and something always pulls us back together! I just don't want to lose that

I'd check the date on that pic, why would it be right in order with his work ones which I assume were recent pics? That sounds fishy to me and him laughing doesn't make it any better.