from being the lovable fiancee to a cold hearted person.. how to move on???
I just want to share a story of a very good friend of mine, her name is Jessica and for the first time she decided to start an online relationship with a man from somewhere in Europe. They have the same point of views in terms and beliefs of family values and that she was really ecstatic to have met a man who have that devotion. They talked every single day over the phone, Skype, IM and you name they have all the type of communication. After a few months of constant communication Jonathan decided to visit her and spend the holiday season at her country so that he can be able to meet her parents as well in where he did. And they both have decided it was love, they enjoyed each other company and decided that they should plan their wedding... though Jonathan have one concern and told her that she snores, maybe due to busy work schedule and after which attending to him takes it toll but I did not believe that would have been a major issue since we go on vacation we sleep on the same room and that because there are also remedies to snoring.
After the holiday he went back to his country and they have continue their long distance relationship until they have decided to go to another vacation but this time it will just have to be the two of them. Jonathan is a very workaholic person that at times Jessie felt that she was taken for granted but she tried to understand the situation because she have committed herself to John, a very lucky man. She always told me of how they are, their routine and I have realized that she should have really loved this man to make all the adjustment for him and he does not have any idea how many man envied him for that. So after that vacation they have, again the same concern was raise since at one point during their sleep Jessie again snore and she did woke up John but she tried to console him and even told him that she would just leave the room, after that vacation she thought everything is okay and that she even asked me to accompany her to Sleep clinic since she was really devastated to have wake up John because she snores, there were a number of appointments she did set-up. Bought over the counter products to check what works to stop the snoring, and I told her that she is really dedicated to make all the changes to make the relationship work and to satisfy John.
But after a week she called me up, she said she felt something is wrong and that John did change. She knew that he love his sleep and she already felt devastated of waking him up for that one instant. She tried to stay normal and even talked to him since they promised to each other that they will be honest, but all she heard from him is that he cannot cope up with the snoring in where she immediately told him that she is doing everything just to resolve the said problem yet as if he does not even consider how she is trying her best to change for him, for them... so that they will both be happy. As if he does not even care and blocked her on his phone, pretend that his apps are not working and totally lost contact with her for a couple of days, and when he did contact her, he just state that they will talk via email and that he cannot cope up with the relationship... i was shocked by it because she did tried her best and that was the first time I saw her cried herself to sleep blaming herself for everything. She was a very sweet girl and it hurts me alot to see her that way. She deserves to be loved unconditionally, people that knows her just love her because she is the most kind hearted, direct and thoughtful person I have ever met. And it also breaks my heart to see her that way, that this good-for-nothing-guy will cause her too much pain and the sad part is that she isn't even angry with him at all and that she said that he wish him all the luck... and i just wonder, what some person want from a relationship, you promised the other that you would never leave them and love them but for a nonsense concern you just eventually left and does not have the decency to talk to her over the phone and just email her. And she was trying to resolve the concern yet he would not even support her. She kept on telling us, her close friends, that she is fine, that she have to deal with cancelling the wedding and to tell her parents and close family members that the wedding is off, it was too much for her to be left all alone. To feel humiliated and just stand tall and act strong to answer family's question of the WHY'S but you can see in her eyes how sad she really is. I just hope that she will recover soon, she deserved to be loved unconditionally... we feel sorry for her and we all pray that the right man will come along. It's not okay to play with people's feelings especially if that person have given you all the love she can. Jessie we love you and please do not lose hope. Please suggest us what is the best thing to do so she can be able to move on to this nightmare??? thank you.
