What to do, break up, stay with her, need advice
Hello guys, this will be my first post on any kind of relationship forum because well I have never had any real relationship before. I met this girl at work, she asked for my number to see if I wanted to go to a "kickback" she was having at her house. Before that, our other co worker invited us to his party, so I texted her and figured out if she wanted me to pick her up instead of us both driving. She said yes, and well it went off from there.
So we have been hanging out as much as we can for about two months now. She really really likes me and I do really like her. Considering this is both our first real relationship, like this girl has not done anything with any other guy, her first time drinking was with me, her first time doing anything sexual was with me, so lets just say there has been a lot of firsts here. Except sex, which is kind of what this thread is about. See this chick I've met is super religious, shes a hardcore Christain as I define it. She does not believe is sex before marriage, and at first that also included oral sex. During the beginning, we decided to break it off because in the long run, this will never work out. I am not a Christain, therefore her beliefs in my mind are not plausible. There are 3 in specific, wont have sex before marriage, wont move in with someone before marriage, and wont marry a non Christian man. So really, what was the point of even seeing each other, because in the long run someone is going to have to change. We really liked each other so much breaking it off didn't really last but for a day lol, so we decided to take a risk and see where it goes (not the best idea I know because it will only be harder down the line to break up and have more heartbreak)
Since then, we have been pretty sexual all the time except sex, she decided to give into oral sex which she stated before is the same thing to her or in gods eyes as intercourse. But she told me yesterday that she was crying to her friends about me pressuring her into sex. I may have been a little, but not to the point that I think she took it to. I know that is wrong, and I do respect her belief about no sex before marriage. Everything really points to ending this already because I am not going to be able to even last a year before really wanting to have sex with this woman. I could possibly wait for marriage, but my views on marriage is also much different than hers. I would like to be dating at LEAST 2-3 years before marriage and I will never get married unless we were to move in together first. The divorce rate is just way to high to not live with someone before getting married in my opinion. And when we do talk about marriage, i like to put the hypothetical word in there because in reality its only been 2 months and that is ridiculous to talk about marriage that quickly, but with her i feel like i have to because that's the only way to get anything accomplished with her. By the way, we are still very young. She is 20 years old and I 22.
So my question is what would you guys do in my situation or what advice can you give me. I like this girl and don't want to leave her, but I am also very young and have not had any real relationships besides this one. Its only been about 2 months so sex could still happen (sorry ladies you may think that is wrong of me to think this) but she has already gave into oral which she said she wouldn't do. In my opinion, you need sex to maintain a healthy relationship these days in 2014.
