Boyfriend unemployed & withdrawn. How to move forward?
We met at work and it was an instant connection. Lots of fireworks and everything was going great. He was sweet, charming, attentive, tons of communication.
And then he quit the job and became unemployed, while I was still working hard and moving forward with my life. He declared us exclusive, but right after that, he became withdrawn and communicated less, as he also had a lot of family affairs going on. This of course, upset me, making me withdraw a bit too, which also in turn upset him. But even when I returned and started contacting him as usual, he would still not be communicating regularly, he had his highs and lows. When we meet in person, he is his usual loving self, but when we are apart, that's when the miscommunication begins.
Then there came a time when he canceled plans last minute and made me really upset. When I brought it up he led the conversation to even ending it between us. But after I clinged on a bit, he called the next day sweetly to keep our relationship.
After that, I decided to give Him space and withdrew contact completely and we have barely been talking for a week. At the same time, I was hoping he would try to contact me more as I'm also going thru a difficult time at the moment.
I know that guys always wanna be the man wear the pants and support the girl but I still like him regardless and want to help him move forward. I know he still likes me but he seems to have a lot of doubts because of his current state.
I didnt want to be too clingy and demanding of his attention so I had my withdrawn phases as well, in addition to speaking my mind about wanting him to communicate more. but maybe that's what made him more upset? But I had always been completely open and honest about my feelings for him.
Guys, what kind of balance is necessary between being supportive but not clingy? Was I being too misunderstanding of his circumstances? How should I move forward? Should I just wait for him to man up?
