Men don't follow through with me
This is a recent problem, having just started maybe a year ago. Guys ask me out, or I go on dates with them, and then they don't call me again. They seem interested in me, attracted to me, but they don't follow through. I ended up with my last guy because I initiated a lot of the contact.
The reflex assumption is probably that I have a terrible personality or that I'm unattractive, but honestly… I have good social skills, I'm interesting, and men are definitely attracted to me.
I know a large part of the problem is that I'm attracted to emotionally unavailable men. But now I'm trying to change who I'm attracted to, and I'm really starting to think it's me.
I wonder if I don't give men validation that they need in order to feel driven to pursue? I know how to get them to do it - be charming; compliment them, and it worked for me in the past, but I don't want to be fake like that anymore because I know it ends up attracting the wrong guys.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated…
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