I am dating my ex-girlfriends ex- bestfriend who is my ex-bestfriends ex-girlfriend
Ok so I will sum this up as briefly as possible. I met my ex-girlfriend,we'll call her Anna, close to six years ago and we completely broke things off after years of trying to make it work about five months ago. While we were together she introduced me to a very close friend of hers,we'll call her Rayven, and we would all get together and relax or go out and whatnot. Talking with Anna, we decided that we should introduce Rayven to my best friend,we'll call him Adam. They were both lonely and hadn't had companionship for years by then. They ended up dating for around two years before she broke it off with him. During this whole time they were together Anna and I were having constant issues which would end up with me getting kicked out of the house. When this would happen I would stay with Adam and Rayven and all was cool. There were no spoken feelings between Rayven and I during the six years I had known her. Again they lived together for close to two years but I had known her for years before Adam met her. So when Anna and I finally split I stayed between my parents home and Adam and his friends apartment until I was able to get back on my feet. During the time I stayed with him our relationship became very strained. I have been successful with my work in construction but had recently left the company I was working for which was a poor decision but thats another topic. Adam has not had much motivation to be successful in life which was the innevitable undoing of Rayven and Adams relationship. I decided to step away from my friend not only because I had my own problems, but being around him was sapping me of life force worrying about his depression which was caused from his poor life choices, general negative outlook on life, and of course the loss of Rayven. He would never take advice and wonder why his life was in such turmoil. This was the topic of conversation every day I would hang out with him and it was just too much for me to handle. Adam and Rayven had been broken up for two years at the point I decided I couldn't handle his drama anymore. Well a few months of not talking to him I had still been in contact here and there with Rayven, after all I lived with them so her family felt like my family. A few facebook messages here, a couple text messages there, Rayven and I end up meeting for a drink. Of course all the feelings I never thought were there came out on both of our ends. We ended up seeing each other and life just seemed to get better for both of us immediately. I landed an amazing job, she has a real man to help her out with her kids now, all is well. The problem is even though Adam treated her poorly and made a spectacle of himself in front of her kids most every night, and the fact I haven't spoken with him in months and do not care much to have a friendship with him at this point, I am having an attack of conscience about the whole thing. Rayven hasn't spoken to Anna in a couple years so to say the least, neither Anna nor Adam know that Rayven and I live together. Adam still gets drunk and texts Rayven frequently and stops in her work to grab a drink even though she has repeatedly expressed her desire to have nothing to do with him. So Here is the dilemma, Adam is still obviously completely stuck on Rayven and is not handling the breakup from two years ago well at all. I feel like I should tell him even though we really aren't friends anymore, but at the same time I don't feel like I need to explain myself to him or need his permission. I am concerned for his well being if he were to find out. He is unpredictable and gets way too drunk and then pulls out the suicide card already. Hopefully someone took the time to read this. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated.
