A few months ago, I meet a married women, we had and instant connection. I had no intentions of perusing her because she was married. However, things have progressed. She has asked that we do not used her cell phone to communicate, rather we use her office line, often she calls me from a pay phone or some other number. We talk every few days or so and we meet for lunch on occasion. We have had sex numerous times. During one of our first times together she clarified a few items.
1) She has never done this before and feels it is wrong.
2) She and her husband do not have sex and they are virtually roommates.
3) She has asked him to leave, he refuses because he does not want to break up the family. I should point out she has a 5 year old.
During the middle of the week, we had plans to meet at my place, plans changed at the last minute and she asked we meet some place to have a drink. Which I was ok with. After a few drink, we came to my place and she did not leave until 1:30 am. The next day we spoke and she seemed a bit guilty that she got home so late and that her husband knows she was not with her friends ‘till that time of night and that she is up to no good.
I should also point out she has mentioned the Husband often comes home at 3 or 6 in the morning. Has somewhat of a drinking problem and spend money foolishly. At least that is what I have heard.
She is away until next week and I do not expect to hear from her until then and I figured I throw this out to the group for some feedback.
What is the scoop?
What is she thinking? What is a married woman with a 5 year old doing getting home at 2 in the morning? That is surely a sign to the Husband. If she wanted to be discrete she would have left a decent time.
Does she really not care of her marriage? Is she sub-consciously looking to make the Husband jealous or give him clear signs the marriage is over?
Is this affair about just sex? I have asked that questions and she says no.
She makes an effort for us to stay in touch and continue, whatever this is and gives me the impression she wants it on her term. Why the sudden guilt trip?
.. What else can she be thinking, please advise.
