I dont know if my boyfriend wants us to be together?

I met him around 8 months ago and we have been together for 4. Im 25 and he is 30. Its long distance at the moment. We re both having financial issues and are unemployed. We both live with our families. I am looking for a job day and night, but he just goes out. All day and night, he is always out for coffees or drinks or meals or whatever. He says he wants to be with me and live with me in the future etc, but i dont see him doing anything. He just tells me to go visit him. And even if i do, what next? Ill just go back to my country and this fantasy will start all over again. I dont know if he is willing to commit. Im thinking he doesnt and he likes the fact that he has a ''gf'' but can live as single at the same time. And if he worked to change that and we lived close and could be together, the fantasy would be over. Could i be wrong? Am i paranoid? What do i do?

Why don't you just break up with him? You're a ****ing mess all the time over your obsession about him screwing around on you or wondering why he's not put you on facebook (acting like a 14 year old when it comes to him).

Where is your self-respect? You're personal boundaries? Anyone who was confident and had good personal boundaries would just dump someone that made them feel so uneasy ALL. OF. THE. TIME.

He's not the man for you. OBVIOUSLY. Find a job and then look for a guy where you live who will give you all the nurturing you need. You're too insecure to have a boyfriend who you can't keep your eye on 24/7. Ugh.