Some Help if possible, my story
Ok Ill try keep it short.. it would mean everything if someone can help
So about a year ago, 2013, I met this girl (Chrysa for code) at a dinner dance function for charity. Her best friend (Elena for code) did not attend. Myself and Chrysa got along well and were chatting for a while and exchanged facebook's etc.
Over the next 11 months, I spoke to Chrysa every so often on Facebook but never met up again as we were just friends
A couple months ago, her best friend Elena and myself became facebook friends. She sent me the first message asking who I am but then her friend Chrysa explained. We then had an instant connection and was chatting online for a couple hours
Anyway, Elena would be very very late with her facebook responses (3-4 days at times) but she was always engaging in her responses asking questions etc
After about a week, she asked me if I wanted to catch up for a coffee to meet in person. I said I cant because I was leaving for a holiday in two days. Now here is the dilemma. My facebook photos are 1 year old (not that old) but I have put on 14kgs since then hence why I said NO to her invitation. I ffelt so bad because I was really keen on seeing her
We kept talking online every 2-3 days or so...About 3 weeks later I called her to talk. I told her I was back in Melbourne but I was leaving for Thailand the next day for a holiday and that ive taken a couple months off work. On the phone, she asked me if I wanted to have a quick coffee before I left for Thailand the next day. I said I have plans and that Im so sorry and didnt want her thinking Im avoiding her. Our fb convos are always long and really engaging
Anyway, about a week ago I texted her phone and she replied. I then sent a couple more texts without a reply.
A few hours later I inboxed her on Facebook and she said sorry she had 'crashed'. We were chatting on Facebook and she was flirting, and she then told me she went on a date with a guy. She then asked me if I was cut. I said ofcourse not. ( ...Im losing the weight before I see her because I really really am interested in her and im not on holiday)....
I told her that if shes interested in another guy and has feelings for him, that there is no point in us meeting up. She said that she was disappointed I felt that way because she believes that everyone has to be friends first before they form a relationship. I agreed. But deep down I was a little upset.
She then went on to tell me that "Dont worry, your the only guy I really talk to :p, and that i should feel special" why would she say this? Im confused to be honest
Last night i texted her in the morning asking how she was and called her but no answer. She replied a few hours later saying she was at work. She pranked me so I can call her back but i didnt because I was out. I texted her 3 times in a row and she didnt reply. I then sent her a long text saying maybe we should not meet and that I felt that she was playing mindgames with me etc
She then sent me a text saying that Im acting like a girl and that she is really busy, and she mentioned that I was overseas
She then said that she found this unattractive (the fact that I sent 3 texts and then sent another one saying that I felt she was playing games etc)
I sent her a text this morning saying a few things. I lastly said that we should cease communication until i come back to melbourne, and If I feel right when im back, ill call her too meet up. She didnt reply...I know i have stuffed up but I dont want to meet her until I lose all the weight and look like my facebook photos. Its not fair If i had met up with her 15kgs heavier. I look a little different thats for sure.
Can someone give me some advice without being rude. Ive never felt this keen on a girl.
