Affair with a Married Woman.
I will try to keep this brief. Reluctantly, I started an affair about 8 month ago with a married woman with a 4 year old child. For me, the chemistry was just overwhelming when we met. I thought I had sensed the same from her. Knowingly that I needed to be careful for myself, I continued, again reluctantly and protected myself as best as I could.
- After a few weeks and during a casual conversation. , I asked several questions which were as follows
What she happy? --> She replied NO
Was she in love? --> She replied NO
Did she want to stay married? --> She replied NO and
If her husband was the ideal husband tomorrow would she want to make her marriage work? And again she --> She replied NO.
I tried to be a mature adult with her and one day I stated that our relationship was what was and I just wanted to us to honest with each other in order to avoid game playing. I asked, if our time was about sex. After all, it was not like we were dating or out in public. Now, throughout the affair, she has always contacted me every day either via text or phone. She would say that was her way making an effort. Sometimes she would say, that she finds herself communicating with me way to often. She insinuated she had feelings for me but never stated what those feelings where.
Now, according to her, the Husband is a good father, but she is really done. She and the husband don’t have sex, which honestly I can believe, that they are just roommates and there is really no arguing. She has asked him to leave but he refuses. That although she wants the separation, she does not want to be seen as the one who is cheating or the cause of the divorce. That he comes home at 4, 5, 6 in the morning without any explanation and they have been living separated lives with the exception of the child. This has been going on for years.
After her husband came in at 7 in the morning last weekend, she has been clearly disturbed. She told me she needed time to sort out her feelings, that she had emotions everywhere that she hoped I would understand. Of course I was bummed, but I also said that I understood and that I was here if she wanted to talk.
Why would a woman who is clearly unhappy not purse a divorce?
Do women stay in unhappy Marriages and suffer because of children?
Is she really that confused of her feelings and emotions?
What is it that I am not seeing?
Would appreciate comments,any and all.