We are not married but living together. He moved into my home in March. We, at the time agreed it was a big step so soon but we would see how it goes and he would move out if it didn't work. This was due to him living 80miles away from me and the fact he had just had a two year ban from driving due to a drink drive offence.
He is an alcoholic and once I realised I tried to help but I failed to and become stressed and distressed with the situation. I asked him to leave. He said he wasn't going anywhere. I moved out of my own home on the 6th November and told him via email that I would not return until he had left.
His response was that he was doing things a bit at a time, the drink first then somewhere to move to. He booked himself into rehab so I returned to my home yesterday. He said he wanted to return here after the rehab but I said that I still felt it best he find his own place, that until I know he has stopped and that there is continued support and we felt ok with one another again I could not live with him.
Today I had a phone call from hospital near by where the rehab is. He has been rushed to AE due to withdrawal problems affecting his heart. He asked them to call me. It is some miles away so not gone to visit today, will go tomorrow.
Due to all the emotional blackmail I've had in the paste I wouldn't put it past him doing detox knowing he hadn't cut down enough to not cause the problem he is now facing but don't know.
I consulted legal advice when I first moved out and was told to change the lock and put his things outside when he was out. If he was to cause a problem I could call the police. Causing a problem is not his style but manipulation is (as I see it).
I talked to my son (25 years old) about him coming back here, he said not to do it, things would not get any better even if he stayed off the drink. I know my son is thinking of me but it is very hard to turn ones back on someone. I don't know how much this is 'please be sorry for me' or is genuine.
Not sure what is the right thing to do.