Sexual Attraction or Not?
I met a man through an online dating site. On our first date we met in a pub for a couple of drinks. We got on well, have a lot in common as we both grew up in the same country before we emigrated to the US, and have similar interests. We are both in our early sixties - he's divorced, I'm a widow. Neither of us is interested in getting married again but are seeking a long-term relationship. We had a goodbye hug after the date. I was leaving for a trip but he said he'd love to make me dinner at his house when I got back as he loves to cook. He made a point of saying "if you're comfortable with that."
So, for our second date he cooked me a lovely dinner and we listened to music and talked for hours. During the the evening he coughed a few times and said he felt like he might be coming down with the flu. At one point he talked about a specific idea for our next date, which appealed to me. At around 10 pm I said I should head home as I know he starts work early. As I got up to go, he apologized for being "standoffish" (meaning he didn't make any advances towards me). Then he said "I don't know how things are supposed to work these days." I felt awkward and mumbled something about it being ok and that I didn't know either. (I wasn't prepared to sleep with him so soon anyway.) As I left, he said he wasn't going to kiss me in case he was getting sick. Then he hugged me and kissed me on my cheek. As it turned out he did have the flu and is now recuperating.
I'd really like to hear what you think might be going on? Does he like me? Is he attracted to me? Is he shy? On both dates I caught him a couple of times sneaking a quick peek at my cleavage, so I think he had at least some initial sexual interest in me. Basically, I have no clue how to handle this now. I'm not sure whether to bring it up in a conversation or drop it. I'm just awful at reading men! Does anyone have any words of wisdom for me. Thanks for "listening."