Never felt so hurt before in my life

met this girl she is something really special I believe. I known her for probably almost two years we been together for a while and we both shared things we have not told anyone about. So when I was ready to ask her out her friends ruined it for me and accused me of things I never done. So since her friends did not want me to see us together they forced a guy on her she did not like and they started dating. It completely devastated me or smashed whatever piece of my heart that I had left. I just couldn't take it, it was destroying me. Usually I would get over it but I could not because the first time in my life I fell in love and genuinely care about her. What made it worst was the person she was dating was my coworker who was lazy and do absolutely nothing. Not only that he spit on the job I have the most passion for; which ticks me off. So I did reckless things and pissed her off and put our friendship at risk. I just did not understand why she would cast me away. The guy broke up with her and kept hurting her constantly and she still want to be with him. She was wicked depress but yet I never left her side and I took care of her every time she was drunk so she won't get hurt because I love her. She knows how I feel about her yet she just want to be friends. It's tearing me apart calming she can't find a good guy yet there's one standing right in front of her.

So what were the things you were doing that no one knew about? Were you having sex with her? or were you just hanging out, cuddling in bed (where nothing else happened) etc.

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So what were the things you were doing that no one knew about? Were you having sex with her? or were you just hanging out, cuddling in bed (where nothing else happened) etc.

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We just spent a lot of time together and cuddling in bed/shared our feelings. We did not have sex but we was intimate.

hah just as I thought. You are just her cuddle bitch. Sorry to break the news to you, you are totally friend zoned. Please read this : [url=http://www.laddertheory.com/laddermanifestations.htm]The Ladder Theory[/url]

She is emotionally attached to you but not attracted to you enough to be romantically interested in you. She just used you as her emotional tampon between BFs. Her friends didn't twist her arm to go out with that guy, she found him attractive in a sexual way, she ditched you, she's a bit ch. She made that choice on her own, she isn't with delicate helpless flower, hell no, she is just your typical messed up stupid b itch. Confident, careless, nonchalant, allusiveness,...all traits of masculinity which girls are so attracted to. You on the other hand are a doormat. You suck up to her, do everything for her, put her up on a pedestal worshiping her.....emasculating qualities girls get turned off by. Please read the ladder theory and make sense of this. Tip: stop spending two years sucking up to a girl. You meet a girl, you find her attractive, you ask her out. Those are the proper steps. Stop being friends, because when you are attracted to a girl, you can't be friends. If she rejects you, you ditch her and find someone else. You will save yourself so much bs it ain't funny.

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Here is a link to the whole ladder theory....happy reading [url=http://www.laddertheory.com]The Ladder Theory[/url]

Cut her off and start dating someone else. Thats prob your last hope of making her think "shit i could lose him if i don't act now". Theres a small chance it could work but if she doesn't come crawling within a few weeks then you need to forget her

Dear RedShadow,

It can be devastating when the one we feel we love doesn't love us the same way and I'm sorry to say, but there's no easy fix here, save time; and the waiting period can be brutal. Sorry your going through this by the way.
Michelle hit on something that might work. The ol' taketh away and see what happens approach. Yet if that doesn't work the only thing you can do is acknowledge the possibility that 'she' isn't the right fit for you man, no matter how much you feel she is, she may not be.
At which point you'll need to find 'stuff' to do to take your mind (and heart) off of her and towards new possibilities.

Won't be easy. No sugar coating there. But you sound like a good man; don't let anyone abuse that or take advantage of it (some do you know). You take your time and make them earn your affections. Everything will be alright. Time to re evaluate your own self standards; what you will and what you won't put up with and hold to it.

She's just broken up with someone that she is obsessed with being with so you don't have a chance with someone like that. Until she is over him completely then she will not be vulnerable enough with you to become more then what you are... her Male girlfriend.

You don't want to be with someone that wants to be with someone else. It will rip away at your self-esteem and make you as depressed as this girl you have been caretaking in hopes she'll fall for you.

Back off completely so that YOU can rehab from your addiction to wanting her (and failing at getting). She's not going to be who you have been hoping she'll be for you now that you've created a pattern of being her emotional tampon and caretaker. Next time don't be so quck to try and ingratiate yourself into the life of someone that already has a boyfriend.

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They forced a guy on her that she didn't even like and they started dating

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If she's stupid enough to be forced into dating someone she doesn't even like then maybe you should thank your higher power that she doesn't view you in a romantic way. She's either a liar and has told you this story to spare you or she's mentally issued if she'd actually date someone she didn't even like. Either way, you're better off without the likes of her and her isms.

Thanks everyone for the input and advice I really appreciate it.