2 years of being the other woman...i need your advice
Hello Everyone!
I am getting over a horrible break up and I just need some advice from men (or women). I’m going to try to make this as short as possible. LOL
So I met this guy who was a year younger than me (I’m 30 and he is 29). I know that is not a huge difference, however I am used to dating older guys and sometimes a year apart can make a difference. When I met this guy in 12/12, I was not looking for a relationship and I was really just focusing on work and school. Well…..he changed my mind about things. He told me he had fell in love with me and at first, I was taken back because I didn’t take him seriously. I eventually fell in love with him too and we constantly talked all day, nonstop, every day. He always came to see me at least 2-3 times a week until he got another job, then I started seeing him once every other week. I was very understanding because his new job had him working a lot of overtime and I was working 12 hour days myself because I just received a promotion. I did have my doubts that he was messing around with someone else, but I thought I was just being paranoid because of my previous relationship.
Everything wasn’t always great with us and we had our ups and downs. He always told me he loved me and he brought up the idea of meeting my parents. So….I set it up and my parents adored him. Almost 2 years in and I was very satisfied with him. Our sex was amazing and I couldn’t see myself without him. My dream soon became a nightmare when I found out he was not only living with someone, but he had two kids with the person too. For some reason I wasn’t surprised, but I was livid. I sent screenshots of the two of them together to his phone and I asked him why he lied to me. Why did he play with my feelings like this? He never texted me back. He never once responded. So I took it upon myself to speak to the woman he was living with. She didn’t seem too upset. He of course told her that I was lying about our relationship, but I sent her over 15,000 text messages between us that proved I was telling the truth. She thanked me for telling her and she even said that I could have him LOL…. I told her no, I just wanted my key to my house back.
It’s been a week since the incident happened. I have not received one text or call from him to explain the situation. After two years of I love you’s, dinners with my parents, plans of marriage and having babies, you treat me like this? Was I truly just the other woman and if so, why go through all that trouble? The questions keep going through my mind and I am so tired of thinking about the what if’s. I know I will never hear from him again, but I just can’t believe this happened to me.
