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I'm having sex issue with my wife. We have been married now for a little over a year but for quite some time now she has shown little to almost no interest in sex. I've tried on several occasions to talk with her about it and work on a solution, letting her know how I'm feeling about the issue. Not a single thing has changed I love her I really do but I'm not happy with our sex life at all.
My advice that follows is assuming that the sex hasn't always been that special from the start but it could apply to a situation if things have just dried out somewhat. I've experienced both scenarios and the following seemed to help me in each instance...
I knew that my OH wasn't as practiced in 'sexual relations' as I was, this became apparent from the early days of our relationship but with steady encouragement we were (at one stage) 'on fire' and it was great.
By steady encouragement I mean I spent more time exploring her likes and through that I was able to turn her onto activities she once thought she wouldn't enjoy (oral for one, she hated that until I managed to seduce my way to that 'zone'). This, in turn, boosted her sexual desire considerably.
IMO just talking about these things only makes them more of an issue when you start becoming intimate. Suggesting to try a few new things and spend some time listening to your partners reactions whilst doing them should be a good was to start sprucing up your sex life. You just have to put her first for a little while, help her build confidence.
Good luck and have fun!
The lack of sex is a symptom not the true issues. There is a lack of proper communication from her. If she had communicated with you on this then there wouldn't be anymore issues with sex.
Suggest couples counseling and if she refuses that then maybe she wants out of this marriage and is too afraid to say it. It's possible she married you for the wrong reasons and is now regretting it.