Jealousy... boyfriend's friend
My boyfriend and I have been toghether for over 2y. I feel like he's the one, and he feels the same way. We both trust eachother and are very confident about this relationship. But recently he said something that has been killing me.
He has a group of 6 friends he always hangs out with. When we started dating, I was happy to be introduced to them as his girlfriend, and they were very nice to me.
Recently, my boyfriend told me that he used to have feelings for one of the girls for a little while, about 6 months before we started dating. She liked him too, but they didn't want to ruin their friendship. He doesn't feel anything for her now, and I believe him. Otherwise he wouldn't have brought this up in a conversation with me (he used it as an example). I told him that it made me feel uncomfortable, he apologized for telling me this story and he understood that it was too much information.
My boyfriend never hangs out with her alone, but of course they do see each other regularly as they're in the same group of friends. I feel very uncomfortable knowing that they have had feelings for each other. I got jealous and became a drama queen, asking him if their friendship was more important than our relationship - why would he still talk to her if he knows that it's making me uncomfortable. (I know. Shouldn't have said that.)
His answer was of course that our relationship is the most important, but she's a very good friend. If I'm really uncomfortable with them hanging out togehther, he would stop having contact with her. But because that would affect their group of friends, it's impossible to do so.
I know that he chose me, and that he's happy with me. He respects me, and I feel stupid being so jealous, especially because the girl is also in a committed relationship. But it is killing me every time they see each other. I don't want to be the controlling B***, but can't stop thinking about what he said. I don't know what to do...