all men cheat according to my b/f!
so... i'm dating this guy that is a latino and he is also an officer in the marines. he is currently deployed, and i was talking to him today and he was telling me that 100% of men will cheat while they are away - in fact he has cheated on a previous girlfriend... he says he knows it isn't right, but men just can't help themselves and they will eventually give in. he seems to think that i should accept that. i told him that is not acceptable, and i don't think that all men cheat...even if they are deployed for a long time. my guy had the nerve to go on to say that if a man cheats it's the woman's fault because she isn't taking care of her man the way she should be. he tells me i'm narrow minded, hard headed, and self centered because i refuse to accept a man cheating on me as acceptable behaviour.
i am now questioning whether i even want to go forward with this relationship...i don't want to judge someone for their past, because everyone makes mistakes - but if he cheated once, says all his friends do it, and he doesn't really think it's wrong - then he will do it again.
the thing that galls me even further is that he says that if i cheated on him he would never forgive me, but would expect me to forgive him for his moment of weakness.
i'm really in a bad place right now - i guesss my gut is telling me to break it off because i wouldn't be able to trust him, but my heart tells me i could change him. it's very frustrating and it makes me so sad to hear him talk like he was. i appreciate his honesty, but feel like i could never trust him. in my mind there is never any excuse for cheating.
i know there is no guarentee that a man would never cheat on me, but i at least want to marry one that i feel pretty certain would nevevr do that to me. i dont know if i want to continue to be involved with a man that i already think would cheat on me.