Can my relationship be saved after a messy break up? please advise.

Background on our relationship, we have been talking since June and didn't start officially dating until august. I had a short history of anabolic steroid use and she does not want to be with someone who uses. I agreed to stop the use. One in particular causes extreme anxiety which I had explained to her and which explained my clingy and paranoid behavior. One night she slept over and I noticed a guy had snapchatted her but she didn't open it since I'm guessing I was around. When she fell asleep I looked in her phone without her permission. We argued about it and I told her my behavior wasn't acceptable and I apologized and told her it would not happen again.

We continued dating after but my anxiety got the best if me last week and I had made a comment about a friend of mine from years ago who she had liked before and that's when she told me she needed space. This past Saturday she told me she wants to be just friends for now and start over, she wants to see for herself if me being off the steroids was the guy I claim to be without the anxiety, which I am.

I had drank most of Saturday night and asked being anxious asked again if that meant she was giving me another chance. That's when she flipped out and told me how I don't own her and all I'm worried about is being exclusive and such. She also has my Facebook password and read my conversation with a male friend of mine. I was asking for advice from him and she didn't like what he had to say and told me I was pathetic and to get out of her life and she's done.


I feel like at this point it may be too late but she and I both have told each other we loved each other, we connect on such a deep level, and the time we spend together is always amazing. We both have many common I terests and we both expressed seeing a future together.


What can I do at this point? Please advise. I really do love this woman, were both 25 and work full time and have our own places, so its not like we're financially dependent on each other. Thank you.

You've only been talking since June and started dating in August. O.o

You don't love her, it's your with-drawl making you paranoid and making you think that she's a good partner for you. She can look in your facebook but you're not allowed to touch her phone? She got a text (or whatever) from another guy and hid it from you? She gaslights you and turns her piss poor behaviour around on you.? Most people wouldn't like seeing a strange guy/girl pop up on their gf/bf's phone if the phone owner didn't at least reply with something like: "oh that's my friend ___, I'll just let him/her know I'm busy with you."

Forget her. In about two to three more weeks you'll not give a shit about her. Work on getting through the steroid withdrawl and then start looking for someone who is a little less freak-the-fvck-out-over-nothing-like.

Now, having said that, your paranoia and your anxiety would be annoying to anyone. If you can't control that on your own and with cleansing it all from your system then please see your doctor because you'll definitely need professional help in being able to cope.