What can I do?

My boyfriend and I we almost 5 years in relationship. Last nov.2013 he fly to Australia because to his work. First its hard to adjust were on first to time having a long distance relationship but I know its for our future. Time passed by the our feelings not mutual anymore he feels like he can stand alone without me, he dont remember to text me as for him its okay. Last August 2015 he came back to Philippines for good the feelings same as before he get come back. I tried to fix I ask him to cool off of our relationship but when I ask him if it would help he said nothing has change. He said happiness was not just like before. How can I do with this situation? Please help me.

Was he faithful while he was long distance from you, have you asked him? If you don't feel things are the same maybe you should not be together anymore. People grow apart, its normal.

Long distance relationships can be extremely hard. Unfortunately, it sounds like long distance may have just been too much for your relationship. It is really a shame especially considering now you are back to being geographically close again, so long distance is no longer a problem. Unfortunately, though, it seems the damage has already been done.

From the sounds of things, it seems that long distance showed him that maybe he just was not interested in being with you. Please don't misunderstand. That isn't to say anything is wrong with you. It doesn't necessarily mean anything is wrong with him either. He may not have had any malicious intention to just leave you feeling alone like that. He may have fully intended to maintain the relationship and just found he couldn't do it. As topaz said, sometimes people just grow apart. It stinks, but it happens. If he no longer feels like you two are the right match, then he is doing the right thing for both of you to let you go rather than to just string you along.

Long distance can really test a relationship. For a good, strong relationship, long distance should be difficult because you so badly want to be with each other, and find it hard to have to be so far apart. Unfortunately, in this case, that wasn't the case for him. Long distance was difficult because it seems like he couldn't motivate himself to care enough to make time for you. Again, that isn't to imply he did that intentionally. I'm not him, so I can't know that. It is possible he never had any intention of trying to make any effort, and if that is the case then you honestly deserve better than him anyway. But, it could also be just as possible that he fully intended to make the effort to keep your relationship together, but with the distance just found that he wasn't as interested as he thought. If that is the case then, honestly, this is a blessing in disguise. If distance made him indifferent, it is likely something else eventually would have anyway. Better that you two figured this out now, rather than to get more serious only for him to later realize he doesn't think you are "the one."

Unfortunately, I don't think there is much you can do. I am sorry. I wish I could offer more optimistic advice, but if he just doesn't feel the relationship is the right one for him then that is unlikely to change. I will say this, I wouldn't necessarily say you just give up immediately. You can at least have a talk with him about everything first. Maybe there are problems you two can talk through and there actually could be something salvageable. I can't really know that. All I am saying, though, is it at least sounds like this may be it. If that is the case, you'd be much better served to free yourself of the situation rather than to cling to something that probably won't last. You need time to heal and grow from the ending of this relationship so that you can have a better chance of finding the right one next time.

Good luck to you. I hope you find the fella of your dreams very soon, whether that winds up being this guy or not.

Hi! Yeah we already talked about it. He suggest to were cool off first. To do what he wants to as a single man. I understand his decision I hope that someday when things is okay he come back to me theres a forever. 😊

Fair enough. But, did you and he specifically define what "cool off" means? Because, to me, "cool off" implies that you are just taking a break, with the intention being that you are still a couple and will get back together after said break, unless you decide it is best just to break it off fully after that.

However, from your original post, I got the impression that he just feels it is over. You really should know what he meant be "cool off," to make sure you had the same idea. Is he intending to date other women? In his mind, are you two fully broken up, but he's just leaving it as a possible option that he may revisit down the road? Or, is his intention that he wants time apart with the eventual intention of getting back together?

Honestly, even if his intention is just to take a break from your relationship and eventually get back together, I would argue he HAD that time already while you two were apart. So, to be perfectly honest, I think moving on would be your best bet at this point no matter what. Again, that will have to be your decision, but you don't deserve to be stuck waiting around for a guy who may never come back to you. If he can't see what he had with you, then that is his loss. Please do not wait around for him forever.

Maybe fate will see fit to bring you two back together. You never know. I am just saying, don't run the risk of missing out on your true soulmate simply because you are waiting on the guy you THOUGHT was him. So, my personal suggestion would be to break it off permanently, take some time to heal and grow, and then get out there and try again. Good luck to you either way, though. I sincerely wish you the best. Drives me crazy hearing about guys who so little appreciate the relationships they have because I would kill to actually have even a chance at love.