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I've been on a few dates with this guy. He's always the one to suggest the dates. We speak most days through text and he always seems interested when he replies and is asking questions etc. The one thing confusing me is that he can take hours to reply, he'll show online on Facebook but still not reply. I'm not expecting messages every ten minutes I just don't understand the long wait all the time.
Should I be worried about his seemingly lack interest or am I over thinking things?
You've only been on a few dates. Why are you EXPECTING anything from him?
Keep in mind that he could be online but not sitting in front of his computer or worrying about "alerts" on his phone from facebook.
I think you should stop your focus on a guy that you've only been on a couple of dates with and keep your own options open. Expecting things from someone who has not had time to even get to know you is going to freak you the fk out in no time.
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BTW: Have you already had sex with him? Is that why you are tripping?
I get what your saying. I think I need to ease off a little and no we haven't slept together.
Good... now don't sleep with him unless he is showing you in actions that he cares about you.
People really need to relax on the idea that social media interactions place any relevant meaning or value on how someone feels about you as a person. Why not be straight forward and ask him? Or text him and ask how his day's going? I don't know, try anything, ABSOLUTELY anything besides scrutinizing and over analyzing someone's presence on the internet. If he seems interested in you, and has no problem initiating conversation, and if he asks you out on dates, then you should be less anxious about how he is feeling. He is probably just feeling you out, like any normal person would at the start of a new relationship. Take it easy, stop fretting, and let it unfold naturally.