Guys, my guy friend claims he avoids me due to blueballs. Is this even a real reason?

This is a serious question. Please read it all before answering. I've been great friends with this guy for over three years now and we've been there for each other through a lot of stuff. We would text/talk often, yet he is married (even before meeting me) No, we're not having an affair, we are just friends. Never kissed, nothing.
A little bit of details on this would be that in the past he's mentioned that if he was single, he would have married me. I am not sure if he is in love with me or not. He doesn't seem to show it at all.

Lately though, out of nowhere, he'll pulled away from me. He no longer talks to me on the regular basis like before and rarely ever reaches out anymore. This has been going on for the past 3 months. We have had no fights, no issues around the time he started doing this. In fact, I feel like we left off at a very positive place.

I decided to ask him about why he's gone MIA. He claims his wife has nothing to do with this and instead, gave two excuses as to why he's been distant. One was: "being busy." 2nd: he gets blue balls around me (Btw, in general, he finds other women to satisfy his sexual needs on the side).

I asked him "Well we've been friends for 3 years, and I'm sure you've always wanted to have sex with me since the beginning, so what's changed? What's different this time around? What's making it so difficult to be around me NOW and not before?" Like, really? Blueballs has caused him to never reach out or talk to me anymore?

So what's going on? Is the real reason that he has feelings for me? Is there something else that I don't know? Does he no longer care about me as a friend?
I dont want to lose my friend. [Please no unhelpful answers like "Why are you talking to a married man?" I don't need that. I need actual, helpful and valuable responses that actually answer the question.]

Thanks guys!

People are never that busy. Being busy is an excuse people use when they want to avoid someone they don't really want to see. I have heard flip flopping answers from men about blue balls. Some tell me it's a real thing, others say it's a myth. Since I'm not a guy, I can't really comment on whether or not blue balls is real or not. Regardless, it sounds like a petty excuse at the least, and at most it's an outright lie. Why do you want to be friends with this person so badly? He doesn't sound very friendly. He sounds rude, and you mentioned he cheats on his wife. He probably does want to bang you and his wife probably knows and it's probably causing more drama in his life than he is telling you. Either that or he doesn't care as much about the friendship as you thought. This friendship doesn't sound all that valuable if he is so quick to cast you aside for pathetic reasons like blue balls. Friendships are harder to keep when we're older, people lead their own lives and get caught up doing their own thing. Real relationships take dedication and commitment to keep the connection alive. It's normal to fall out with friends from our past, even if nothing dramatic happened. Sometimes we just move on and go our separate ways.

I think your friendship with this married guy is inappropriate and you both know it.

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Originally Posted by lightstar [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I think your friendship with this married guy is inappropriate and you both know it.

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What leads you to believe their friendship is inappropriate? Just because he's married?

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Does he no longer care about me as a friend?

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That's my guess.

Why you want to have a married friend that "in general, he finds other women to satisfy his sexual needs on the side" Is beyond me. He's trash and you know that old saying "you are what you eat."

Check your own motives because you sound like you may be awfully desperate for HIS attention, don't bring yourself down to his trashy level.