Is this a form of Narcissim? Controlling behaviour? Manipulation?
Hi all new member here :)
Wish I could say I was in a better head space however I need some advice on my ex. She is all over the shop atm & i've had enough.
I've been kinda still seeing my ex until last week we broke up Valentines weekend. She is kinda seeing another guy who is infatuated with her. I've had a few dates myself but know i'm only on the rebound. I'm sure it won't last with him as he is a puppy dog & he will just smother her like he did last time. She dumped him for me originally & he ran straight back to her when we broke up. I actually feel sorry for the guy if anything. She tells me he gives her what I can't & vice versa. She even said she wants her cake & eat it as well?
I keep telling her to go for it (which she hates) so I can move on as I do have feelings for her but know it's not going to work.
I don't put my ex on a pedestal & know I can find someone else. However like you said it bothers me as well, it's getting under my skin how she can treat me like this.
I have said to her multiple times & she agreed that we both she go no contact which I can do though within a day she always contacts me & I give in cause I feel sorry for her.
I don't want to be a prick & not respond as that's my style as I honestly want her to be happy. We are just going around in circles.
However this weekend the penny dropped I knew she was out with him as she didn't text me or anything to say good night. Her last text to me was xxxxxx love you & miss you lots xxxxxxxx. (Cough). The next day around lunchtime she texts me all nice in sweet saying Baby what are you doing??? I had enough & didn't bother replying.
I also found out she made up some bs about this other girl I use to be involved with. I'm only assuming she wants me to hate her so I don't contact her again?
Jeez it's been one day of no contact & she has called me at least 30 times. I have not answered or called back. Not replied to any texts either.
I've received all sorts of texts saying how much she hates me, how much she loves & wants to be with me, that she has dumped the other guy & also sent me pics of her in lingerie?
Am I dealing with an irrational control freak narc who has lost the control of the situation?
I've always ended my relationships on a good note except one. I may have to accept that this might be my second one? I don't like hurting people but she is giving me no choice. I need to respect myself.
Your advice is most appreciated as i'm sure i'm blinded by love on this one.
T. :)