need help, might be about identity crisis...

ladies, i'm really in need of help here. please don't get me wrong with the title. i'm really in love with her, i love her very much and i try to understand her as long as she makes an effort to make me understand whatever it is she wanna do, even if it hurts me.

now here's the thing... we've been going out for half a year now. still not officially together since she needs more time to serve her family herself. she's a reclusive person, a loner. she's been so used to being by herself all the time. she also doesn't really talk much or express emotions most of the time. i know she's not expressive, and i am, but she says she wants to be as open with me as i am to her (and i'm very open to her), she wants to be as expressive to me as i am to her, and wants to not be a reclusive loner who hides in her own shell all the time when it comes to me, but only to me.

i didn't tell her to be like this. this decision is hers alone. i told her she didn't have to change at all because i love her too much already. but she decided to be this way and asked me for pointers. so i told her something like "okay, then, observe me when i'm with you. if you need me to help you with something, i will. but you gotta stop if you feel like you're losing yourself."

she's obviously having a hard time doing it, but she's been trying her best, and it's very obvious that certain changes have occurred. now, my problem is that i've been thinking whether i'm doing things right, or even if what i'm doing is right. i mean, i'm supporting her all the way, she has all of me, but is it fone for her to change, even if only towards me?

please, ladies, i need advice...