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Need unbiased advice
I am trying to move forward with the woman i love
I am FAR from perfect but am doing.my best under nightmarish conditions. I want to fully forgive and forget wrong doings and move on but when i cant even get simple things it makes me feel like all i am is being used.
Anyways social media. Facebook i finally got her to add me, well her friends list and her wall has the guy she cheated on me with while we were engaged and left me for. Pictures of them cuddling, posts and stuff while they were together.
She did some other stuff as well, but i brought this up. It ended with me being blocked, her guy she cheated on.me remaining.
From everything I've heard in such cases contact with the other person is wrong period if one wants to be.forgiven and move on.
I want nothing more to forgive and move onto.a.future with the woman i love, but when she cant even do something so simple, it makes.me feel shes picking him over.me still.
Please only unbiased opinions on the.matter.
What would you do, feel, try?
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Well, considering none of us know you or her, I'm not sure how you would get any opinions other than unbiased ones. Me personally, I think this one is pretty clear. In my personal opinion, she doesn't deserve you. You deserve better. I cannot even begin to describe how wrong that whole story was.
So, you, as her boyfriend/fiance has to basically BEG to be added as a friend on her social media..... yet some guy with whom she cheated on you IS already?! And she finally DOES add you... but there are still lovey dovey pictures of her and this other guy all over? .....And somehow she doesn't see that there's anything wrong with that..... such to the point that when you call her out on it SHE BLOCKS you like you did something wrong..... yet he's still on her social media.
She doesn't deserve you. I don't know how much clearer she could make it. Believe me, I understand how you feel. Sometimes when we think we are in love, it can be hard to let go of that. The thing is, you deserve somebody who will appreciate you, and she obviously does not. She sounds, to me, like one of those people who just NEVER can admit they can do anything wrong. In their own mind they are the perfect little angel and the world revolves around them. Their problems are anybody and everybody's fault but their own. Funny how those are exactly the people who are always so morally reprehensible.... yet if you'd ask them they are the picture of perfection.
Honestly, I normally try to give advice looking at both sides of the coin..... but this is not a time when I can do that. I cannot see any reason to remain with her. I cannot see any reason to feel anything other than that you deserve better.
Good luck to you.