Long time love cheating on fiancé with me. So confused.
Guys, I would love your take on this. I have an ex who I dated on and off for 10 years. I kept dumping him time and time again because I never thought he loved me and I wanted someone who could return my love. Truth is, I never told him how I felt. I just always broke up with him ( I was 16-25 years old). Now, he has been seeing someone for a few years. He tells me, about a year into his new relationship that he loved me so much in our time past and that he always thought we would get married. But my career had me moving around and we hadn't lived in the same place in years. Ouch.
Fast forward and now we are living in the same city. I am married and he is engaged. He started messaging me every day as soon as I moved back. That messaging has turned into a sexual affair for the last 8 months. We talk everyday and see each other for about 30 minutes every 1-2 weeks.
I told him that I have been in love with him for these 15 years and that I would marry him tomorrow if wanted. His immediate response was that he loves his fiancé and he is marrying her.
Recently, he has asked if we can have sex the morning of his wedding.
Can someone please tell me what is going on? We are both jerks, I know. I have always been in love with him, but was too young and stupid to be able to talk about it with him until now. If he really loves this fiancé, why did he pursue me? Why does he initiate contact every day? Why cheat on the day you say vows and have plans to continue cheating for years after the wedding?
My heart is broken and confused. Please be kind, but honest.