I recently approached a very close girl friend of mine and told her that I've had strong feelings for her beyond the bounds of our friendship. She said she couldn't date me because she wasn't attracted to me. I asked if it was looks... She denied it, saying that I was VERY attractive. She went on to say that she'd be self-concious with someone who looked as good as I do. She said that looks and attraction are different, as there was just no chemistry.
Have I ruined the chance of chemistry by being the available "friend"? Should I make her work a lot harder for my company? I know I can be too predictable... But I'm just questioning whether I can really be her friend when I still want her. Does her response about attraction and looks sound legitimate? She insisted that she honestly thinks I'm very good looking... But the self-concious part of me tells me not to believe her. While I've been trying my hardest to be a friend... She's gone right back to being flirty with me and it's driving me nuts. She told me I have no chance with her... Yet a few days after telling me this... She was touching me and making jokes with light sexual content. She even tilted her head showing her neck asking if I wanted to lick and taste her perfume. She even started hugging me lots again after going through a phase where she stopped. Am I wrong to see this as being unfair AFTER I told her that her physical contact is frusterating to me? Orrrrrrrr... Is it possible she does want me in some form but can't/won't say so because she knows I'm wrapped around her finger?
