Back in the game after a long time, would like some advice

22 years old male. Soon 23. Been out of this business for a good 5 years (been depressed the first four). Tried a little something here & there but never much serious. I feel like dating might be hard for me, since I look a little weird due to my condition (alopecia). But I'm just gonna say **** it and test the waters with various girls. Most guys get this experience during their teen years, I didn't. So I got some catching up to do!

I'd say my life is interesting. I work out minimal 4 times a week and have a great body, looking good and feeling healthy. Setting up my own business while studying, nearly done with my first project for my client. And I have some good relationships with various men. So I figured the cake is great, now it's time to put on the icing right!! And that means dating women.

Approached 2 cuties a week ago, one was very distant and on her phone a lot so I did not ask her contact info. The other one was more interested in my friend. She wants to meet him even though she has a boyfriend. Not the kind of girl I would want to date. Also dated two girls before that, tried kissing one but she did not reciprocate. The other one was not interested in me romantically when I told her that I thought she was attractive so I told her we will not meet again. Gotta take your losses.

Seen a nerdy/cutie girl walk around at school, she is also in the promotion group as I am. I'm interested in getting to know her better so I approached her a little while ago, and added her on facebook yesterday. Chatted with her a bit, told her I think she looks good on a photo she put up recently from a school trip. She is enthousiastic and sends smileys frequently, which comes across as feminine to me and I dig that. I'd love to see her in a dress with her hair up, she'd look lovely. Would it be weird to tell her this?

Anyway I'm a bit of a macho guy and tend to act tougher on the outside than I am on the inside. If anyone has some general advice I'd love to hear that. Thanks.

One more thing, I have a MILF teacher and she turns me on a lot. It's off-limits, but I really want to get to know her better. She touches me frequently and there's always some tension between us. Love to hear some input.

I dont see where you need advice cause you are good already. You have the balls to approach girls and talk to them, try to kiss them. Thats basically all you need for a start.

Well I wouldnt say nerdy girl that I would like to see her in dress. THink you have to accept girl the way she are and dont want to change her. She might have feeling that shes not good enough or something. Like one girl told me if I had a style then girls would run after me. That wasnt exactly a compliment cause she never said compliments before. But now I realise that she was right after I tried that leather jacked on in store.

What about teacher - they are programmed in school not to fall in love with students and dont let students to fall in love with them. If they sense that someone falling for them then they act colder. But I seen a teacher who dont care about this so that just proves that some women dont care about anything. If your teacher is milf and hitting on on you then you can say you can indroduce her to your dad. In case shes old enough to be your mum. I see where you coming from when you say older girl turns you on and theres tension. I for sure have felt that with some older chicks. Think they felt tension as well.

I think theres nothing different in approaching milf. Might be even easier than with younger girls and they could care less about your looks. Its just if she dont lose job if people get to know and start talking about you two. And again she might not care about that either.

I could give a lot advice for beginners but then again do you really need this info in your head since most important thing is just try to be a better man and a lot of social exercise - experience. Thats what makes you good. When you stop approaching girls then you forget those skills too so its like gym - when you stop it you lose results over time and go back to old you. Its just instead of your body its personality that changes.

BTW when you approach girl on a phone then say her to put down her phone even if shes talking on it. Dont say please just make a request.
Also when you approach a new girl on a street you can ask her on a date instatly - say if she dont wanna go have coffee with you.

What about kissing - dont know how it is for you but I dont even try to kiss a girl on first date. I go for a kiss on second date when theres just as two at her home. Thats how it worked out with last 3 girls. Perfectly watching a movie and kiss, make out from time to time(Like watch a move, get bored watching - kiss, get bored kissing - watch movie again.). Not trying to have sex on second date yet but just kissing and touching above the waist. Then if second date been successful like that then I kiss a girl every time I see her again. Like Hi and kiss. Also its nice and sweet feeling during and after second date. And then its easy to have sex on third date. Cause now what I do is kiss her neck too to turn her on and touch below the waist too and can put her hand on my hard D. Not so nice and sweet as second date but more sexual, more comfortable with each others bodies. But yeah its better dont turn on girl if you dont want to have sex with her.

Here is advice I gave to some other guy. Maybe you will find it interesting to read. There a link to my guide on interacting with girls too -

loveforum.net/love-advice-forum/99908-help-girl-idk-im-guy.html

Hello pcmaster, I remember you from a long time ago. 5 years ago when I had my first breakup you also gave me advice. I was registered under a different username. Your advice was very down to earth and it helped me out. Looking back I have grown a lot, and still do. Thanks.

Interesting points you bring to the discussion about the looks. I guess it depends on how you word? You could say that someone doesn't look so good now, and would look much better in x or y. Or you could say: you'd like fine as hell in this or that (leather jacket in your case).

My teacher, I don't know yet. I really, really want to **** her brains out. Have her show me how to make love as well. Something about her feminine nature makes me want to please her (and myself of course). I'm just going to test for interest, ask her to take a walk with me during the break. I already set up a reputation for myself at school as being someone who pushes social boundaries so I don't think it will be seen as weird.

Information overload would kill me atm, encouragement and a practical step or two will help me and give me some confidence. Just going to keep on experimeting and testing for interest. Like with my teacher and the girl I mentioned (nerdy cute girl). I already asked her out, going to plan that with her later.

Okay great, the kissing thing sounds good. I'll keep that in mind and see where it goes. Definitely going to try to make a move for sure on the second date. Don't want to postpone rejection or success. Anyway the girl is very eager to meet up with me, she even gave me her number without asking and very clearly demonstrated she wanted me to ask her out, and so I did.

Gotta run now for gymnastics classes, I'll read the article later and let you know. Thanks for taking your time to help me out buddy!

Nice that you remember me. Really 5 years ago I was different person. Had a sensitive heart and really cared about members on forum. Posted night and day, was breathing with forum and at the same time healing my broken heart and feeling better when seeing others get hurt too. Did a lot of reading and educating on relationships and that kind of stuff since didnt wanted to suffer and get hurt again. Really my advice was more theoretical since I never really kissed a girl 5 years ago.

I see how you feel man. Spring is here and so are hormones raging. I think its okay if you say her you want sex with her but of course dont be direct. Say something like - I need to her you breathing.
Still long way till that cause first you have to see how she respond to your touch and what she is willing agrees to do with you. Like ask her out or something. Maybe offer her company to escort her to her home. Say you wanna talk about math or something lol.

Like in US when people want to have sex they say netfix and chill. Seems like just year ago netfix and chill actual meant what it said - movies and relaxing. But in reality its so easy to kiss and make out with a girl when you are watching movies at her or your place.

If a nerdy girl gave you her number and was very responsive that means she want to fck as well. Just you know girls dont admit it. But I think its the sexual energy that gave made her do it. Like when you want to have sex you are pushing for dates and want to meet with girls it drives you without you even knowing it.

1st off glad you are being honest about having alopecia because whoever you find you definitely want them to love you for who u are no matter what the case is. far as the teacher i would leave that alone you dont want to cause more damage then you have on your plate it could end up being a disaster for you and the teacher! and far as telling the girl how you think she would look cute with her dress and hair pilled up, no i dont think it would be a problem if you told her just be mindful of the way you go about telling her you dont want to come off sounding like a creep you want to make it a point to let her know how beautiful she is without exactly telling her what to do i would just calm down and take things slow rite now dont rush anything that way you know what you are getting into good luck

Weird, I wrote a whole reply to the two of you and it hasn't been accepted yet in nearly 2 weeks. So I'll write a new one. Took her out, got to know her and had a great date overall. Ate some food and took her home. Had her massage me, we kissed and had sex. It felt good, but I was a little disconnected. Probably the nerves lol.

She's a cute girl, very caring and sensitive. Much more than I am. She is beautiful and I let her know, mostly through touch and pleasing her. She pleases me back equally. Anyway we didn't take it really slow like you said Stay 2gether. Well, nothing wrong with that either. I'm just going to keep doing my thing, and she will be the cherry on my cake. My cake is never finished.. and it's always my priority.

LOL - your cake is never finished. This is relationship forum not a place where you brag about your cakes. Get out of here lol !