Michelle I think the thing with you is you have a lot of good ideas and intentions but you pass them off as if they're fact, and they aren't. like yes, in the ideal world no one would be shallow or care if a guy was a virgin and it would all work out great and be full of rainbows and flowers but the hard truth is that when you get older and are a virgin, it becomes tough. more people have lost their virginity and it leaves the ones who haven't feeling alienated and inadequate, as is shown by LR. if it didn't bother him why would he come on here and make 1,000 posts about it? sure, some women probably wouldn't care and would guide the guy through and be ok with it, but there are also some who would find it a turn off and judge him differently because of it. may not be nice, may not be how the world 'should' be but it's how it is.