I told you, it's not just because of that. I dunno about OP, but in my case he was a person I respected and looked up to... then he did that and everything changed. He took advantage of my trust and admiration. I know you don't believe me, but I've had many years to think about it and I know how it is. We'll just agree to disagree.Quote:
Originally Posted by dickriculous [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You are talking about intellectual abilities here, I am talking about experience and emotional maturity. Different things.Quote:
It's not that black and white. Two points here - first off there are PLENTY of 17 year olds who are ready for sex, just as there are 35 year olds that you would find too immature for it by your standards if you sat down and talked to them. The numbers don't tell the whole story, if they did then there's no way 15 year olds in ages past could have ever commanded armies to victory over 20, 30, and 40 year olds. There would be no way a gifted intellectual could possibly have more figured out about the world by age 13 than an average adult has at 25. There would be no way a kid could ever outwit an adult. Every kid in the world would be more of an emotional wreck than every adult. Your assertion about how someone in their 20's is more ready for sex than a 17 year old only tells us how things should be on paper, which doesn't always reflect how things really work in real life.
I don't agree with the military thing - at that age, one is too immature to be able to make such a life-changing decision for him/herself. Of course the government(s) take advantage of this immaturity - not a lot of adults in their right mind would voluntarily sign up for something like that.Quote:
Second, one year after that age you describe as being too emotionally immature to decide who I can have sex with I had to sign up to be eligible for the draft, which gave my government the right from that day forward to conscript me into the army and send me overseas to get shot at and eat explosives in service to the United States Government should the need arise. If I'm old enough and mature enough to bear that responsibility, I'm 10x older and more mature than I need to be to decide if I want a woman in her 20's or 30's wrap her pussy around my cock.
Had she been older than 20, living on her own and being her own woman, none of us would be saying anything like this. We aren't saying these things because she's a girl (at least, I'm not), we're saying them because she's a kid. Also, I don't think her "life is ruined" due to one bad decision - everybody makes mistakes, especially at a young age. My life certainly wasn't ruined, I don't feel like I'm a slut or powerless or any of those things (although I did feel powerless when it happened) - I just regret for that bad decision I took and I feel disgusted at the "man" who let it happen. But it's in the past, I've moved past it a long time ago, and I've learned to see it as a learning experience rather than a traumatizing one.Quote:
You're right, they're not only a result of that double standard. They're also the result of society shoving implication after implication down her throat that she is a helpless, powerless victim who's there to be exploited and who's life is ruined if she allows something like this to happen because of how weak and incapable of making her own choices she is, this is FAR more psychologically damaging than an older guy having sex with her. And all this talk about how this guy took advantage of her, used her, etc. is serving only to exacerbate this psychologically damaging, disempowering victim mentality. There is no non-destructive way to tell someone "you're too helpless, powerless, and clueless to so much as decide who to have sex with".