Originally Posted by
Charlie Boy II
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Kristen was a shocker in this area. For the first couple of months she expected me to pay for everything. Not just dinners, but all her expenses on any kind of outing we happened to take. Even if we were hanging out at one of our houses and went to the shops to get some chocolate, she'd just hand it to me when we got to the register, like a f-cking girl out with her daddy.
The check would arrive for a $200 dinner and she'd just sit there looking at me. And then she'd say "thankyou," in this flippant way, like when someone holds a door open for you. I mean I was always going to pay but I like to get a bit of kudos for it.
I'm pretty generous by nature. I always insist on paying on dates, just because I enjoy buying a pretty girl dinner. It makes me feel warm and fuzzy. It is not because I think it entitles me to sleep with a woman, or makes her indebted to me. Indignant that is a complete load of garbage.
But man Kristin's attitude gave me the shits. It ground on me so badly I eventually told her I was going to break up with her if she didn't seriously shift her attitude.
So to the OP, from a guy who does always like to pay on dates, I still think your attitude stinks. If he asks you out to dinner that's fair enough. But if you're just hanging out, or if you ask him don't expect him to pay.
So it doesn't seem like he's the one with the problem. It's your attitude. You've misunderstood the convention.