Originally Posted by
IndiReloaded
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Cain, I've had to do NC on someone I cared deeply about. Noone is saying its easy. Its not, it was actually incredibly difficult. But it IS the best way to *quickly* reset your thinking about your relationship. In my case, it was the best thing I did for that relationship & I'm glad I had the strength to go through with it.
Think of it like an addiction (it actually IS, from a biochemical view). The best way to get over an addiction is to go cold turkey. Without going into a geeky behavioural psychology explanation, just trust me that it is the fastest way to get over her.
Noone is saying you can't be friends sometime in the future, but right now you need to think of your own mental & emotional health. Because your bitch of an ex isn't concerned, that's obvious. Protect yourself and go NC for a few months. She is an adult, she has chose to live without you. So let her. You aren't married, you DON'T owe her anything, Cain, except perhaps a decent breakup, which you gave her (it seems).